Redditor Confronts Aggressive Manager Over Not Working On Her Day Off And Asks If She Was Wrong To Choose Personal Plans Over Work

"He told me to stop making plans for my days off since he might need me to work those days."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• October 2, 2023

Having a job positively impacts an individual’s mental and physical well-being as it fosters a feeling of purpose, routine, and structure, which are important elements for maintaining psychological stability. Besides, having a stable source of income through employment is crucial for individual financial stability and security.

But if the job gives someone more trouble and stress than benefits, it might be a sign that it is time to look for a different workplace. Unfortunately, many people struggle in their jobs until they realize this sad truth.

A Reddit user shared that she works in a company that requires her to work almost every day. However, this situation leads her to significant mental exhaustion and a possible onset of burnout.

She also said that her efforts are not appreciated, particularly by her new manager, who seems prone to highlighting minor mistakes that go unnoticed by other managers and often threatens write-ups. Recently, the OP had arranged to visit her sisters on a pre-scheduled day off.

Despite organizing her schedule a week earlier, her manager requested her presence at work on the same day. When she informed him of her pre-existing commitments, he showed annoyance and instructed her to refrain from making plans on her days off, noting potential work needs.

Since this incident, the manager’s behavior has turned increasingly aggressive, leaving the OP feeling conflicted and remorseful for not changing her plans and wondering if her adherence to her familial commitments was selfish.

The OP's question:

The OP explained she works almost every day, but her efforts are not appreciated:

She had a day off and planned to visit her sister, but her manager called her to come to work:

She didn't go and now wonders if she had made a mistake:

This is not a healthy work environment

The OP should find a different job

"If they're not paying you, they can't dictate what you do with your time."

She should report the manager to HR

The OP added that her manager is causing her anxiety issues

There are actually only two options

"Don’t bother calling HR because they’re there to protect the company, not you"

A Reddit user explained the similar experience and the way they handled it

The OP should at least try, no matter the outcomes

"He has no right at all to treat you like that and act like your days off are his to do as he likes with."

Redditors advised the OP to find a different job because this one doesn't have a healthy work environment, and it will only make her more stressed. The other solution is to report her manager to HR, they might be able to help.

Either way, those are her days off, and she is allowed to make personal plans and spend them as she wants. They don't pay her to be an 'on-call person,' so they do not have the right to tell her what she should do with her days off.

Filip