Upset Woman Refuses Birthday Cake Because Husband Picked The Wrong Flavor

Does she have a right to be upset because her husband got her a cake she doesn't like?

Lakeisha

• Published in Interesting
• January 18, 2023

Reddit user ThrowRACakeDay shared a post on the "AITA" subreddit about an incident that happened at her recent birthday celebration. In the post, she mentioned that she doesn't like chocolate cake, but her husband and closest friends all do.

While she might take a bite if someone insists that she has some, she generally doesn't like it. However, her husband always wants to get her birthday cake every year.

ThrowRACakeDay said she doesn't trust him to know what she likes and has tried to get her own cake in previous years, but it has become a huge problem that makes her husband moody all day. In recent years, the only time she had a cake she liked was when her mother-in-law made her a lemon drizzle cake.

For this year's birthday celebration, ThrowRACakeDa had her birthday dinner at a restaurant with her friends. At the end of the night, the waitress brought out a huge chocolate fudge cake and began singing "Happy Birthday."

ThrowRACakeDa was irritated instantly, and after they finished singing, she asked them to take the cake back and package it up for her guests. ThrowRACakeDa feels that it's reasonable for her to get a cake flavor that she enjoys on her birthday, which only happens once a year.

However, her husband is now upset with her and claims that she embarrassed him in front of their friends and the entire restaurant. She asked the subreddit if she was the a-hole in this situation.

Here are the responses from the community.

Here's OP's story.

Was she wrong to refuse the cake? Here's what Reddit thinks.

1. Ideally, she should choose her own birthday cake.

2. It makes no sense for her husband to get her his favorite cake on her birthday.

3. Her husband needs to work on listening.

4. Her husband embarrassed himself.

5. People should get whatever they want on their birthday.

6. She should get him a cake he hates for his birthday.

7. The celebrant should choose their preferred cake flavour.

8. She should get him back on his birthday.

9. Some people enjoy ignoring others' wishes.

10. Her husband doesn't care about her preference.

11. Her husband might be doing this in other areas.

12. Getting a cake you like on your birthday makes sense.

13. It's her day, her wishes should be respected.

14. Her husband could have chosen a different cake flavor for one day.

15. She should point out his "stupidity" to him.

16. Next time, she should tell him the flavour she wants.

17. She should tell her husband how not to get embarrassed.

18. She could have handled the situation in a way that would make the guests feel awkward.

19. Her husband deliberately got her a cake she doesn't like because he's selfish.

20. They may need counseling if the issue persists.

What Do You Think?

In any relationship, it is important to consider and respect the preferences and feelings of your partner. This is especially true when it comes to important events or celebrations, such as birthdays, where small gestures of consideration can mean a lot.

When one partner consistently ignores or disregards the other's preferences, it can cause feelings of frustration, resentment, and hurt. This can ultimately erode trust and intimacy within the relationship.

By making an effort to understand and consider our partner's preferences, we can create a more harmonious, loving, and fulfilling relationship. What do you think?

Lakeisha