Thanksgiving Drama Unfolds For Young Woman Over Embarrassing Wine Gift Incident

"My friend told me the wine would probably sit on a shelf for ten years and then be thrown out"

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• January 20, 2024

Ever been to a party where you felt totally out of place? Well, here's a story about a 26-year-old woman who went through just that.

She was invited to a Thanksgiving get-together at a house she'd never been to, hosted by someone she didn't know. Wanting to be polite, she brought a bottle of wine worth $25.

Right after she got there, people started making comments about her wine being too cheap. Turns out, the host's parents owned a vineyard, but she had no clue about this.

Even the host and her friend made her feel silly for bringing that wine. Her friend even said that nobody would drink it and it'd probably just get thrown out.

Feeling embarrassed and annoyed, OP took the wine back when she left the party. She knew it wasn't exactly the norm to do this, but she didn't want to waste her money after everyone had been so rude about her gift.

Later, her friend called her out, saying it was a bad move to take the wine back and that she shouldn't embarrass her like that again. OP sees both sides of the story but still thinks she was right to take the wine home.

Was it okay for her to take her wine back, or should she have left it there?

OP's friend invited her to a party at her friend's house, whom she had never met before.

OP brought a $25 bottle of wine to a gathering because it's customary to bring something when visiting someone's house for an event.

People wondered why OP brought cheap wine to the event, not knowing that the host's parents owned a vineyard, which was never mentioned by their friend.

OP's friend didn't mention until later that the wine OP brought might not be consumed at the house.

At the end of the evening, OP took the bottle with her.

At a typical party, it would be considered rude, but due to criticism, including from the host, OP didn't want to waste a $25 bottle.

OP's friend thought OP was being inconsiderate.

OP is seeking opinions on whether she made the right decision by taking home a bottle of wine that multiple people said would never be opened at a party.

There should be kindness and understanding between the host and guest.

Calling it cheap was rude, and OP's friend' and her comment about the party were also quite rude.

A $25 bottle seems astonishingly expensive.

OP's "friend" is not a friend if she enjoys humiliating OP.

Many people, including OP's friend, seem unkind.

The hosts were inhospitable.

OP has good manners, and even though she didn't follow them when she took the wine back, it was a fitting response to being mocked by people she doesn't know well.

OP should find new less snobbish friends.

It's not cheap at $25!

It's not polite to insult a guest's gift.

OP's friends are rude jerks.

OP is not the as*hole here.

It's time for OP to find better friends.

Calling the wine "cheap" was rude. Whether a $25 bottle of wine is expensive or not depends on who you ask, but it's essential to appreciate the thought behind the gift instead of making fun of it.

When OP decided to take the wine back home, it might not have been the usual thing to do, but it made sense since she felt embarrassed by how people treated her gift. The hosts didn't make her feel welcome, and some of the people, including her friend, were not very kind.

OP did the right thing by bringing a gift and didn't deserve the rude comments she received. It's not polite to insult someone's gift, especially when they meant well.

OP might want to think about finding new friends who are more understanding and appreciative, as it's clear she's not the one who acted badly in this situation.

Damjan