'Grinch' Wife Gets Accused Of Ruining Her Husband's Dream When She Refused To Host Holiday Dinner For His Family

Does the wife deserve coal this Christmas or is it the husband who's on the naughty list?

Chelsi

• Published in Christmas
• January 6, 2022

It's the most magical time of the year! Well, for some of us because news flash: not everyone celebrates Christmas.

Like this Reddit wife who was labeled a grinch by her husband's family for refusing to host Christmas this year. OP (original poster) does not celebrate the holidays because of her religion.

Her family doesn't live in the same country as her which means, they usually spend their Christmas with her husband's side. Her husband, on the other hand, is a Hallmark movie character who loves anything and everything about the Yuletide season.

He has a big family that always made a big deal about the holidays. Since he has a lot more people on his side, the celebrations are always fun.

In contrast, when OP celebrates any holiday, it's just her and her dad. Apart from religious reasons, she just doesn't really put much weight on Christmas and because of that, she doesn't have any experience preparing for it.

The issue is, OP's husband wants them to host Christmas in the year to come. OP said sure until her husband explained that it means she has to host everyone, prepare the food, and do everything.

By the way, the husband has already announced that they will be hosting. OP, understandably, got mad and asked why he prematurely advertised this before even asking her.

OP made it clear that it's not her responsibility to host Christmas for him and his family.

Now, OP's husband is accusing her of ruining his lifelong wish to host Christmas.

He also told his mother as well as his sister and informed them about OP's decision. OP's mother and sister-in-law have been contacting her non-stop to ask why she's being such a 'grinch'.

OP is not backing down from her decision not to host. But since her husband is sulking, OP is wondering if she should just suck it up this once.

Read OP's original post below:

Do you get a Christmas bonus if you do all the grunt work?

If the husband has been dreaming of hosting Christmas his whole life, why doesn't he do all the work himself?

We second this motion

Dear Husband (DH) should organize, plan, and execute everything.

An old-timer has an anecdote that might help OP...

... with a little life lesson...

... and bulleted points to show OP's hubby

OP is clearly not a willing participant as she doesn't even partake in the celebration

The MIL and SIL have been waiting for the opportunity to pass all the work to someone else

It's childish behavior, is it not? Does the husband know that *spoiler alert* Santa doesn't leave all those presents?

It's time for the husband to woman-up and do as he promised.

Possibly a solution for OP's dilemma

The potluck idea has a lot of traction

The implication being, OP being a Grinch and ruining the husband's LIFELONG dream

Women are the reason why Christmases have been magical for a lot of people. Recognize.

The husband is the main host while OP can help out every now and then

Someone asked OP if she was against hosting Christmas at her home and why

If someone experienced is already dishing out how difficult it is to host a family for Christmas, can you imagine how OP will successfully navigate it when she has no prior experience?

OP shared that her strong disagreement might have been rooted in something deeper and personal

The moderators of the forum also shared why OP thinks she could be at fault here and she will probably suck it up just this once

It's unfair what the husband did. OP did nothing wrong declining the husband's decision to host Christmas when she knows she can't deliver what he's expecting.

Feel free to enumerate why the husband is at fault here down in the comments. If you think he's well within his rights to volunteer his wife to do all the laborious and exhausting tasks, then you can share your thoughts as well.

Chelsi