Husband's Toxicity Is Exposed After He Declares His Wife's Cooking Is Only Suitable For Pigs
Cooking is a skill that can be learned and should be learned by everyone. No, it's not just a job for women, and no, you didn't marry your wife to be your personal chef.
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The opinion that cooking is a woman's job is just an outdated misogynistic trope. If you are a capable adult, cooking is a basic survival skill.
A Reddit post about a fight between husband and wife recently received a lot of attention. OP (original poster) lamented that her husband doesn't know how to cook.
She cooks the traditional food she grew up eating but he doesn't seem to enjoy it. OP saw him eating unhealthy meals daily and this motivated her to learn how to cook the food he enjoys.
She spent time learning his typical family meals and she proudly announced that she can now make them for him with relative ease. He appreciated her effort, praised the food, and even encouraged her to learn more.
All seemed well in their household but it seems the husband has some issues he didn't voice out. He kept the issues to himself until they were invited to dine at his parents' house.
OP excused herself from the table to wash her hands after she was done eating. When she left her husband was still enjoying his food and as OP was making her way back to the table she overheard the following conversation.
Her husband's father told him to slow down because he was eating too much
OP's father-in-law asked his son if OP cooks for him at home and if he also eats well. He confirmed that OP does cook for him but the food she makes can only be fed to pigs, not humans.
OP was hurt and offended when she heard her husband talking about her cooking this way behind her back. OP walked toward him and announced that she will no longer cook for him after what he said.
He was just about to reply when OP walked past him to get her bag and said she was going home. When he came home after a while, dear husband said that OP should be happy that he still eats the food she makes even though it's not yet perfect.
The husband said he was trying to protect OP's feelings by not mentioning it but she hurt him when she said she wouldn't cook for him anymore. Is OP the a**hole? You can read the full post below:
"The only food she makes for me can be fed to pigs."
This was a reply to a now-deleted comment but the point still stands: if he knows the perfect flavor of the food he likes, he should cook it himself
This diabolically practical advice that OP should definitely consider
There are tons of comments on Reddit where the advice is to leave/divorce your partner...
... that's too drastic for some cases but with OP's story, it could potentially be a deal breaker
He aired out his issues with her cooking in the worst way possible and in the most inappropriate setting as well
For the people at the back: "Having a spouse cook for you is a privilege, not a right."
He was lucky he didn't choke on all that bull
In this day and age, there is no excuse for an able-bodied person not to learn how to do a basic life skill
Ah, there's the term — weaponized incompetence...
... AKA "I refuse to learn how to do this thing therefore you should do it for me, otherwise woe is me and you're the bad guy."
Must be convenient for him to marry his personal chef
It's pretty obvious that wasn't his main objective
Maybe that's the secret ingredient he has been searching for to make OP's cooking perfect
He could have told her constructively and in private. Also, he could have learned how to cook the food he likes himself!
Good luck looking for your next meal, food critic
Marriage is not the end of the book where you can just gloss over the details and say they lived happily ever after. So much of the relationship happens once the wedding rings are on.
Some couples are lucky and find out how compatible they really are with each other. Some, like OP and her husband, figure out that they have significant issues that can quite literally break their relationship.
We hope OP enjoys some of the traditional meals she has stopped making because her husband doesn't enjoy them. We also wish the husband wakes up and finally realizes he is an adult now who needs to learn how to make meals for himself.