Man Calls Out Wife For Keeping Old Dating Apps On Her Phone, She Refuses To Alow Him To Check Even If That Means Divorce

"I'm not sure I even want to know at this point"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• October 26, 2023

A solid relationship must have trust, yet trust doesn't develop easily. Additionally, it is difficult to get back once broken.

Infidelity could be the first thing that comes to mind when you consider situations that could cause you to lose trust in your spouse. However, there are other ways for a relationship to lose trust than by cheating.

Other options consist of a practice of breaking agreements, reneging on commitments, withdrawing support from your spouse when they need it, lying, or manipulating others. Don't have a habit of keeping emotions inside, as you ought to share them with your partner.

To begin with, it could be useful to see trust as a decision that an individual must make. The main thing to note here is that someone cannot be convinced to trust you.

It's possible that you won't decide to trust someone until they prove they deserve it. When someone betrays your confidence, you may experience physical illness, shock, or hurt.

You could be forced to think differently about your partner and your relationship as a result. This is what the OP of today's story is facing with his wife of three years.

The OP found out that his wife was still receiving messages from this guy she used to see around the same time that they got together. She snatched her phone out of the OP's hand as he was literally handing her the phone because a text came in.

Her attitude got worse as time went by, and everything just broke the OP's trust in her.

OP writes

It was kind of an episode with her snatching her phone out of the OP's hand

OP tried to plead with his wife that she was about to do irreparable damage

OP's not sure she'd want to go to counseling either, or even forgive her at all for that matter

And the comments roll in...

She is staying with another guy

It would be an uphills battle to amend

The OP shouldn't be naive

From a Redditor who believes OP's wife is hiding something:

Obviously hiding something very damaging. Otherwise, why hide it in the face of you flat out telling her she is going to do irreparable damage to the relationship? Anything incriminating is long gone and she will up her efforts to hide shit from now on.

You need the truth. Without it, you guys are likely (and should be) done. She's entitled to privacy, not secrecy. Time to grey rock her for a while. If nothing changes for the better with her attitude, it's lawyer time. Sorry man. I hope you get a great outcome, whatever that looks like.

She is also minimizing her actions and blaming the OP

She's terrified of the OP checking her phone

The OP needs to pack all her stuffs off

Who keeps old apps on their phones?

Redditors pointed out that OP's wife is still in touch with this other guy; she’s deleting her messages to him, she’s not at all remorseful of her actions, and she might as well be gaslighting the OP. Some say it wouldn’t come as a surprise if she was actually visiting the other guy and using her other family as a convenient excuse.

Drop your thoughts about this story in the comments section below.

Maryjane