Woman Visits Wife's Workplace And Finds Out She Is Hiding Their 9-Year-Long Marriage From Coworkers

They have been together for nine years and have two children

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• April 20, 2023

Many people strive to keep their personal and work lives separate, allowing their coworkers to know only what is necessary for their job duties. This can be especially true for those who work in male-dominated fields, where private matters can be subject to scrutiny or judgment.

Such was the case for Eve, who was married to the OP for nine years and had two children, but kept her private life hidden from her coworkers. OP and Eve have been married for nine years and have two children.

The other day, the OP gave Eve a lift to work and waited for half an hour before she responded. Worried, the OP went into the hospital to look for Eve and discovered she had been called into emergency surgery.

When Eve finally emerged, she was angry that the OP had revealed their relationship to her coworkers. Eve felt this would result in her being subjected to negative comments from her coworkers, as her workplace is male-dominated.

The OP argued that their relationship is a fact, not something to be ashamed of. Even after they arrived home, the OP couldn't accept the situation, and their argument continued.

A friend of the OP's suggested that Eve's concerns may have been valid given her workplace environment. The OP is questioning whether they were being an AH.

OP asks:

OP and Eve have been married for nine years and have two children.

The other day, the OP gave Eve a lift to work and waited for half an hour before she responded

Worried, the OP went into the hospital to look for Eve and discovered she had been called into emergency surgery

When Eve finally emerged, she was angry that the OP had revealed their relationship to her coworkers.

Eve felt this would result in her being subjected to negative comments from her coworkers, as her workplace is male-dominated.

The OP argued that their relationship is a fact, not something to be ashamed of.

A friend of the OP's suggested that Eve's concerns may have been valid given her workplace environment.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

Redditors seem to think that there are no a-holes here

They should have talked about the situation

"Not intermingling work and home is super important."

This is true, but...

But not talking to your life partner is really weird

"Did she just hide her sadness and stress from her wife"

The OP and Eve's argument has left the OP questioning their actions and feeling as if they were being an AH. While Eve's concerns may have been valid, it is important to remember that a relationship is a fact, not something to be ashamed of.

It is up to the individuals to find a way to reconcile and better understand one another. Ultimately, it is important to prioritize communication, no matter the environment or situation, so that a deeper understanding can be reached.

Damjan