Woman Tells Her Widowed Sister That She'll Never Move On Like She Did, Gets Bombarded With Different Texts From Family

"The guilt tripping is however getting to me and I’m wondering if I truly did something wrong"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• May 10, 2023

Your world can be altered or shattered when your partner passes away. You find yourself in a state of grief and sorrow as a result of the loss.

You might experience numbness, shock, and fear. Being the one who is still alive, you could feel guilty.

You might even have anger toward your ex-spouse at some point for leaving you. But you need to understand that these emotions are all normal.

The way you should feel is not governed by any regulations, and there is no proper or improper way to grieve. You might need to rebuild your own life in addition to dealing with your loss-related emotions.

You might continue to miss your partner as time goes on. However, the severe pain will generally subside.

People can learn to accept death and, eventually, begin a new life with the support of regular talk therapy with a grief counselor or therapist, just like the OP in today's story. The OP and her sister both lost their husbands in an accident years ago.

OP's sister remarried around a year after her passing and went on to have two more kids with her new husband. The OP has three teenage kids from her late husband.

She hasn't dated since the accident, and she doesn’t plan to, but her family keeps pressuring her to. They did it to such an extent that the OP had to lash out at her sister. 

The OP kicks off her story with this headline

The OP knows this is controversial for many, and she seriously doesn’t need people telling her that it’s okay to love again

The OP has tried everything to shut it down but her family are adamant that she needs to date again

The OP has never commented on the fact that her sister moved on until this instance

In only two days of being posted, the thread went viral with over 10k upvotes with 1.9K comments

OP's sister brought such a response on herself with her constant nagging

It seems like a lot of children are not ready to move on

The OP really appreciates this comment

From a Redditor who lost her husband over two decades ago

It sounds like years of dealing with this kind of attitude

They're is nothing wrong with staying single after the loss of a partner

You don't need to be in a relationship if it isn't what you want

The OP plainly told her sister to drop it first

It can be challenging to move on from the death of a spouse, and some people recover more quickly than they anticipate. Others might take more time, just like the OP.

But when you have more good days than bad, you will know your mood has improved. Redditors sympathized with the OP, and they understood her point of view.

In the end, she was declared not the AH.

Maryjane