Woman Gets Criticized Online For Bringing Her Wheelchair-Bound BF Of Four Years To Her Brother's "No +1" Wedding

"The trust and respect he had for me was gone the minute I decided to stomp on his wedding boundaries and override the rules"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• November 3, 2022

There's no doubt that getting married is a beautiful thing. It's likely that as soon as you announced your engagement, you were inundated with inquiries regarding the preparations before you could respond to the compliments left on your ring selfie.

What is the chosen date and location? What colors are you going to pick?... And the list goes on and on.

It takes effort to complete the major tasks, but it can become daunting when you take into account all the customary "wedding rules" that must be followed. So it's important to take a step back and reflect on any wedding customs you feel forced to follow and ask yourself if they truly mean something to you before you lose sleep over finding something you shouldn't.

When you, as a guest, are given a wedding rule, the best thing you can do for the couple is just to obey it. It's their happy day and you don't need to ruin it for them, but the OP in the AITA story of today chose to do her own thing.

The OP's brother and his now wife sent her an invitation and mentioned a "no +1" rule, but still the OP chose to be an exception. She brought her wheelchair-bound boyfriend of 4 years with her, where the couple were livid and picked up an argument with her about it.

And here is the title...

The OP tried to discuss an exception for this rule

It's not like my boyfriend was making a fuss

His wife texted me yesterday to stop calling

Here are some of the most upvoted comments from Redditors in response to the story.

Using the disability card when it was irrelevant

You say he remained quiet and respectful

You are not entitled to show up with whoever you feel like

Your invitation did not include a plus one

You had no right to do what you did

Why do you generally talk about him like...

This Redditor wouldn't have gone at all

The venue will have charged them for the extra person

Your option was to decline the invitation

This Redditor suspects the OP knew this would cause a problem

You decided to ignore what you were explicitly told

The disability card is being played here

You did not think it would matter

You don't get to dictate the guest list

It doesn't entitle you to stomp over all the boundaries

You don't bring an uninvited guest to a wedding

The OP had choices

The OP still went against their invitation

The correct move would have been not to attend

The OP brought someone who wasn't invited

There's no reason to allow worry about other people's expectations to overshadow what should be one of the happiest periods of your life. But not in this case when the OP chose to just do her thing without considering the couple's feelings.

After all, the rules are there for a reason, right? So you either obey the couple's wishes or you have a choice of not attending.

Maryjane