A Pregnant Woman Accused Of Timing Her Due Date With Her Friend's Wedding

"She responded by asking me if the pregnancy was even planned, which I wasn't really sure how to respond to. "

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• January 30, 2023

Having a wedding can easily fool you into thinking that the world will revolve around you since it’s your special day. From other people’s decisions to natural occurrences, one may feel that they somehow revert back to their wedding.

People who have experience dealing with brides and grooms are sometimes more lenient when giving them whatever they wish for. It’s much easier than dealing with conflict.

So when you actually bump into a possible problem with them, you’d doubt if you’re the one in the wrong for expressing any disappointment with their plans. This was just the case of an OP who posted in AITA.

OP’s childhood best friend recently got engaged to someone she is friends with, and OP is ecstatic for them. The fiance wanted OP to be a bridesmaid at her wedding, but there’s a problem.

The wedding date that was chosen would happen really close to her due date, which was announced way before the engagement. They decided to talk about the situation, which ended up with the fiance asking a question that OP felt was kind of invasive and rude.

OP then informed her that it would be best not to ask any other pregnant women that question. There was a drift between them after that, and OP now doubts if her disappointment about their chosen wedding date is justified or if she's being unreasonable.

This is why OP thinks she might be TA

OP was supportive of the engagement and even introduced them to each other

OP assumed they were part of the wedding and was grateful to have a meaningful part in it

The chosen date was too close to OP's due date, causing conflict

Is OP right to expect an apology from the fiance?

A wedding can fill your focus and it would sometimes make you forget that there are other people's lives to consider

There are Redditors in the comments who are in disbelief of the fiance's question

So someone wanted to get the specifics before diving into an opinion

To which OP kindly provided

Miscommunication was then pointed out to be the most probable cause of their conflict

OP is not unreasonable for wanting to voice out her thoughts in this case where she doesnt expect them to change anything for her

The friend might have asked OP in hopes that there is a chance for her to still be a bridesmaid

Before OP's question, there were more comments that state how rude the friend is but...

whatever OP's answer would have been, it wouldn't have made a difference

It's as simple as this

OP was voted as NTA in the end. Redditors pointed out that her feelings are valid, but since she might still overthink her friend's question, they provided theories that might have fit the bill more than her being rude.

OP is the one to decide if those are actually the case because she's been friends with her for a while. It's up to both of them to communicate better moving forward to bridge the gap.

Chelsi