Groom Makes An Untimely Joke About His Bride's Make-Up During The Speech And Compared Her To A Department Store Mannequin

"I've heard it phrased as 'those who claim to be brutally honest are usually more committed to brutality than honesty'"

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• September 9, 2022

Make-up can mean so many things to different people. It can be just for kicks, entertainment, or something more. It can be something that uplifts them from not liking who they are to completely loving themselves.

The world of makeup hasn’t been as familiar to OP until she was in her late 20s. When she discovered it, it became one of the biggest reasons why her self-esteem soared as well as a source of income for her. 

Before that, she had always been socially awkward and an introvert. When it was the day of her wedding, she mixed it up a bit with her makeup but it was still in theme with everything.

Her husband, who was always a sarcastic jokester didn’t stop commenting about it. It would have been okay if it was just the two of them, OP was used to it but his jokes made it in his groom’s speech.

OP got annoyed and even noticed the guests laughing a bit. She then waited when her now husband’s parents were there when she told him off about what he said. 

This resulted in her husband sulking and telling her that she overreacted. He wants her to apologize to him for what she did and for embarrassing him in front of his parents.

Here's how OP reacted when her husband made a joke about here during his groom's speech

OP never had the best self esteem but then she got introduced to make up and something changed

OP tried a different style of make up during her wedding day and this is when her husband started making jokes

OP waited until they were with his parents and went off about his 'joke'

Her husband blamed her for overreacting and wanted OP to apologize

If OP excuses his teasing behavior all the time, this might not be the last time he could hurt her with them

Turning a blind eye on red flags happens too often

That's a pretty way to word what people really think of him

As long as he says he's joking right?

There's a big difference with honesty and being a jerk

The right response when you usually hurt someone is 'don't be too sensitive'

Being able to tease someone and knowing their boundaries takes a lot of empathy and also really knowing that person...

Taking a joke so far disregards your concern about the insecurities someone else has...

When they start doubting themselves because of your joke, it might be time to step back

There's also a time and place for jokes...

And with OP's husband's jokes, during a wedding is not it

There's also a way to apologize when things go too far

This comeback is gold if OP could have said it

Their polite laughter was an awkward cry for help

There's this saying that jokesters should remember

OP wanted to enjoy her day and do something that would make her feel beautiful during her wedding. She clearly did not appreciate her now husband saying things that are hurtful to her in front of many people.

This is why she was voted as NTA. But even with this decision the majority of the Redditors, still couldn’t believe that OP excused his ‘joking’ behavior.

Chelsi