Soon-To-Be Wed Couple Threaten To Wed In Secret Over Demands From Family

When wedding gifts come with a lot of strings attached.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• February 3, 2023

As beautiful as wedding ceremonies are, there is a daunting side to it. These ceremonies can be pretty tricky to plan, from trying to breathe life into your childhood expectations to trying to please all your guests.

According to a Zola survey, 96% of couples found planning their wedding stressful and 40% of couples said it was EXTREMELY stressful. Another study found that 71% of newly engaged couples considered weddings more nerve-wracking than other major life events.

It also doesn’t help that they are costly too. Most couples spend thousands of dollars for one day of celebration. The amount a wedding costs usually depends on its size and the quality of activities.

To sum it up, weddings can be a lot of pressure for the couple. And it's even crazier when the biggest challenge is coming from their loved ones.

We found one couple who might have just hit their breaking point with all the wedding stress. In fact, they're considering wedding in secret just to get away from everything and everyone.

OP shared that she and her fiancé had agreed to do a small wedding to avoid the typical "wedding culture." However, her family had other ideas, and the problem started with numerous cash gifts.

As expected, they were excited about the cash gifts, but soon realized it came with demands. OP and her fiancé then told the family that they would rather make refunds to everyone than meet their excessive demands.

Unfortunately, their message wasn’t well received, and many people got upset, with some threatening not to attend the wedding. This led them to ask the AITA question.

Scroll down to digest the details.

The story in detail

Money gifts with strings attached

This couple is having none of that

Now some family members are threatening not to attend the wedding

A good idea or not?

We gathered some of the best reactions from the Reddit community:

"Mental gymnastics"

"I vote ditch the whole ceremony and do a small destination wedding just the twoish of you"

"That money was not a gift"

Weddings and funerals reveal a lot

"You could have worded things a bit more diplomatically."

"They don't care about your wedding; they care about fulfilling some fantasy in their heads about their perfect wedding."

"Too much drama - run away, get married quietly and live happily ever after"

"Exercising a bit more self-restraint in how you communicate will make your life easier in the long run."

Entitlement should never be tolerated

This Redditor presented two important angles in this matter

"Your idea on eloping might be the best way to go forward if it continues to be an epic shitstorm."

"YTA - Not because of what happened, but because you were very blunt in your wording."

"This is YOUR day. Go do your wilderness thing."

Weddings are adorable, but we can’t say the same about the family drama that comes with them.

From the look of things, a majority of people are on the couple's side, but there is still criticism over the wording of their statement.

Join the conversation. Do you think the couple made the right decision to refund family members or do you think they could have handled things more diplomatically?

Jesse