Redditor And Her Partner Cause Major Family Drama By Planning Child-Free Wedding, MIL Accuses Them Of Tearing The Family Apart

"'I am not coming to the wedding, neither is your brother or your sister"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• September 4, 2023

A wedding is a special day in a couple's life. It's a day filled with deep emotions, memories, and dreams.

So naturally, couples want everything to be perfect, reflecting their unique bond and vision for the future. The careful planning and attention to detail are not just about the ceremony itself but about creating a pleasant atmosphere for everyone.

Recently, a Reddit user shared a story about their special day, but they also mentioned that their view of the perfect wedding is way too different than their future mother-in-law's view. And it might have caused them some difficulties and headaches.

The OP and their fiancé have made a mutual decision to host a child-free wedding next summer. This choice, however, hasn't been well accepted by the OP's future mother-in-law.

Two months ago, while at a family gathering, the couple revealed their preference for a child-free wedding, which made their mother-in-law grumpy for the rest of the day. But recently, her feelings escalated even more.

The fiancé's brother is supposed to be the best man and will be a father by then. The mother-in-law perceives the couple's decision as a direct insult, especially given that the baby will only be around 8-9 months old during the wedding.

While there are available family members who can look after the baby during the ceremony, MIL is still deeply upset. She even accused the couple of causing unnecessary rifts within the family.

She expressed that the best man and other family members might boycott the wedding due to the couple's decision. The OP is particularly upset, feeling that the mother-in-law is unfairly manipulating the situation.

Both the OP and their fiancé are united in their stance and find her behavior unreasonable. The mother-in-law's strong resistance has only strengthened the couple's decision.

But the OP can't help but wonder if they really are ruining the day, as their MIL says.

Here is the OP's concern:

The OP said they want a child-free wedding:

But their mother-in-law disapproves of it:

She even asked them why they wanted the fiancé's brother to be their best man if he couldn't come to the wedding:

The OP added some more examples:

The OP is so annoyed by the MIL's behavior:

But they also want to hear unbiased opinions:

Given MIL's immature behavior, maybe she doesn't qualify for the guest criteria

"Not having MIL might be for the best"

She could take care of the fiancé's brother's baby so he could go to the wedding

"Child-free weddings are great"

"Sounds like a MIL is trying to bully her way into getting what she wants"

A Redditor was curious:

The OP responded:

Every couple has the right to decide how they want their wedding day to be, including having it child-free. While it's unfortunate that the mother-in-law cannot see eye-to-eye with the couple, her attempts at manipulation aren't fair.

The OP and their fiancé are in sync about their wishes, which is the most important aspect. They shouldn't be made to feel guilty for wanting their day to reflect their shared vision.

Filip