Sister Calls Brother Selfish Because He Didn't Ask His Wealthy In-Laws To Include Her Family On Their All-Expenses-Paid Vacation To Europe

"In that case, can I come with my family? Cause I read your post and, frankly, you are being selfish not inviting me."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• May 15, 2024

A Redditor is gearing up for an upcoming overseas vacation with his in-laws. His excitement over the trip stalled when his sister asked why he never asked his in-laws to invite her and her family to one of their holidays.

OP and his wife have been married for eight years. He grew up in a working-class family, while his wife comes from generational wealth.

OP and his wife do not rely on her parents' generosity to fund their modest lifestyle. However, their wealth provided their family a safety net should they ever need help.

It is a privilege that OP acknowledged and appreciated. OP's in-laws have been generous towards his family.

His in-laws did not give them a cash gift, but they paid for OP's and his wife's honeymoon. They also set aside 100k in high-interest accounts for their kids' college education.

They also opened doors for OP and offered to pay for grad school should he ever take that path. On top of that, they regularly invite OP's family on all-expenses-paid overseas vacations.

This year's trip would be their 5th, and everything is set — all that is left is to show up. Aside from OP's family, his in-laws also invited their two other children and their families, and chosen family friends would join the festivities.

OP laid this plan out to his sister after she asked about his summer plans.

He noticed his sister's annoyance over the info. She asked OP why he never asked his in-laws to take her and her family on one of their holidays.

His sister knew they regularly invited family friends and asked why they weren't included in that list.

OP admitted he never thought to ask. He also felt it would be tacky and greedy if he asked. He told his sister as much, but she complained about how she could never afford these vacations.

Who his in-laws invite on their vacations is their business. They pay for their holidays and can spend it with people they want around them.

His in-laws could look at OP differently if he fished around for invitations.

It's audacious of her sister to expect this level of treatment from OP's in-laws when he never did. If OP and his wife do not rely on their generosity, why should his sister?

His sister's jealousy is for her to deal with. OP, his family, and his in-laws are not responsible for an adult's unreasonable expectations.

His in-laws are barely acquainted with his sister. They could be polite and civil during events, but that doesn't make them good enough friends to vacation with.

Terrible advice. OP's sister could be jealous and entitled enough to make a cheeky request.

A better idea is to make her realize she does not have a good enough relationship with these people to make such a bold request.

They can spend time with whomever they want. Unfortunately for OP's sister, she is not on the list.

The good thing is that this entitlement is not in their family's genetic code. OP sees his in-laws differently than his sister does.

His sister only values them as potential vacation sponsors. OP was right, his sister's vacation issues are for her to solve; although, she should probably focus on reining in her entitlement.

Chelsi