Lady Seeks Advice On How To Remedy Her 7-Year Verbally Abusive Relationship

“I deserve to be treated with love and respect!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• November 5, 2023

Sometimes, we find ourselves at a crossroads, facing a tough decision that could change the course of our future. For seven long years - basically an entire lifetime, our narrator (Original Poster) had been latched to her partner.

But this was no fairy tale or epic romance; if anything, OP was at her wits’ end. From the very beginning, the signs were there. OP’s partner would openly display rudeness to her, in the presence of his relatives and family. 

She repeatedly communicated her feelings, hoping for change. But the problem persisted, leaving her to wrestle with a touch choice. 

Yes, she was sure her partner cared about her, but how could she make him see that his behavior towards her in front of others was hurting her ?

OP finally summoned the courage to sit down with her partner and dive into the heart of the matter. What unfolded was a revelation that rocked the foundations of their relationship.

When the mirror was pointed back at OP she realized she hadn’t been the perfect partner either. They were both guilty of being verbally abusive.

As they continued to delve deeper, OP acknowledged that the love may have withered on both sides; this left her in a difficult situation. Toxic relationships were seen as the norm where OP came from, so leaving was not an option. 

She conceded that this was no longer a love story but a tale of survival and one thing was for sure - she was done tolerating mistreatment.

The story in detail

A little background

OP doesn’t feel her partner cares for her due to the constant disrespect

Important update

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

“You’ve been telling him for seven years - he knows, he just doesn’t care.“

“You should consider time apart to really think about if this is the person you want to be with.”

“You assume your boyfriend wants to change. He doesn’t. He knows what he is doing.“

“He knows he’s being rude and choosing to continue being rude. There’s nothing left to communicate or explain.”

“7 yrs is a long time to waste on someone who treats you poorly.”

“Why does he get graded on a curve for the better part of a decade?“

“I guess if it's okay for him to make you feel rude, then it's okay for you to call him out on it.“

“You need to decide if this relationship is good enough because he will not change.“

“It's been 7 years. What can you say that already hasn't been said?“

With newfound strength, OP thanked the supportive community for helping her find her voice. 

She insisted she couldn’t walk away even though numerous Redditors stressed that that was the best option. She chose to stand up for herself instead.

As she charts a course toward self-respect and love, she acknowledges the complexities of her situation and the cultural norms that have shaped it. 

Her small, shiny backbone will be her guiding light on this challenging path.

What do you think about this story? Let us know in the comments.

Jesse