Redditor Considers Going On Vacation Instead Of Her Brother's Wedding Because He Treats Her Poorly And Abuses Her Financially

"Over all in the last two years, I spent thousands of dollars."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• August 24, 2023

Weddings are great occasions to celebrate the new chapter in life with friends and family and even strengthen some bonds. It's the biggest day for the newlywed couple, as well as for their closest family members.

So, while a couple plans their perfect wedding, they also need to consider their closest family members' needs. Recently, a Reddit user shared her unpleasant story about her brother's wedding and asked Redditors if it would be wrong if she just skipped it.

The OP said she has always had a distant relationship with her ten-year-old elder brother due to their age difference. But for the last two years, she's been involved in the wedding preparations of her brother Tom and his fiancée, Sarah.

Although she believed her invitation to be a bridesmaid was out of obligation, she fully embraced the role, spending thousands on events and recently purchasing an $800 dress. However, after Sarah became friends with her brother's wife, Becky, she decided to replace the OP with Becky as a bridesmaid.

The OP was disappointed but didn't make a big deal of it and went to her brother's house to pick up the dress and return it. Then Sarah said she hoped Becky could wear it because of their similar sizes.

The OP said she was okay with it, but they would have to pay her the $800. It led them to an unpleasant discussion because Sarah expected her to lend her dress to Becky.

Her brother and Sarah even tried to compromise with her and offered her to be "the assistant flower girl" and $250 for the dress. But that offended the OP, so she refused, returned the bridesmaid dress, and got a full refund.

Shortly after, a coworker offered the OP a discounted trip to Miami that coincides with the wedding. Now, the OP is considering not attending her brother's wedding and taking a trip to Miami.

The OP's dilemma:

The OP said she and her brother have always had a distant relationship due to their age difference:

But, with his wedding plans and her as a bridesmaid, they grew closer:

Suddenly, her brother's fiancée Sarah decided to replace her as bridesmaid and even take her $800 dress:

They got into an argument, and the OP tried to explain to them it was not just about the dress, but to no avail:

And since her coworker offered her a discounted trip to Miami, the OP started thinking about skipping her brother's wedding:

A Redditor said she should go to Miami

Their offer is insulting

"Go to Miami. Have a good time."

Additional responsibility

Ideas for flower girl positions:

"Sometimes, you just have to let people show you who they are and believe them."

So disrespectful

"I wouldn’t be surprised if this was planned."

Another Redditor also believes they planned it that way from the beginning

"This whole ordeal has stressed me out," explained the OP

It's a made-up title

Her mother supports her:

"Not going to the wedding is still the right choice"

"The dress thing just doesn’t make sense at all"

"Go sit on the beach in Miami, have a fun cocktail, swim in the ocean and dance in the bars."

While the OP embraced the chance to improve her relationships with his brother, his point of view was apparently different. He still doesn't care enough about her feelings and treats her very poorly.

As for the wedding, everyone advised the OP to go to Miami instead of her brother's wedding.

Filip