Girlfriend Upset At Boyfriend For Not Flying Down For Her Birthday, He Is Busy With Internship And Side Jobs

The girlfriend has been guilt tripping her boyfriend for different reasons too.

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• Published in Interesting
• December 31, 2023

Some relationships inevitably have the couple in different states or maybe even different countries. Some of them kick off their relationships face-to-face, and then, bam, circumstances like family, school, or work pull them apart.

Others dive into the long-distance game right from the get-go, meeting online or in passing and kicking off a relationship from different corners of the globe. No matter how you and your partner end up in a long-distance situation, it's essential to acknowledge that LDRs (that's long-distance relationships, for the uninitiated) bring challenges on a whole different level.

Over at the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit, a 20-year-old guy tells the community that he is juggling a lot this summer. The original poster (OP) is in a long-distance thing with a girl he's dating at school in Florida while he's off in NYC for a paid internship at a financial firm.

He's also moonlighting as a cello teacher on Saturdays – talk about a busy bee. According to the OP, he received a text from his GF expressing disappointment that he's not traveling back to Florida for her 20th birthday.

She laid on the guilt, questioning his commitment to their relationship and basically making him feel like he was dropping the ball. The OP has been sending her birthday goodies and even brought back earrings from a family trip.

But she's not impressed and drops the classic "I never told you to do that" line. Now, OP is scratching his head, wondering if he's dealing with some immaturity and selfishness.

The OP wonders if he's the a-hole for not flying down for his girlfriend's birthday.

The two are in LDR because the OP has a paid internship in another state.

The girlfriend told him through text that she's upset that he's not coming personally to see her on her birthday.

The girlfriend then guilt-tripped the OP, which didn't work on him.

He feels his girlfriend is being immature, but would like opinions from other people about the situation.

A Redditor confirms that the girlfriend is not just immature but also being selfish.

One Redditor agrees, but understands why she feels that way because of her age.

The OP expected the girlfriend would understand since she's a pre-med student with a busy schedule.

One user encourages the OP to move on from the relationship if the girlfriend is too clingy.

Another user believes that the OP needs to compromise and find a way to meet his girlfriend.

The relationship wouldn't work, otherwise.

While some Redditors agree that the girlfriend is being selfish and immature, it is pretty normal for her age to feel that way. If their schedule doesn't allow them to meet up, then the girlfriend would have to be more understanding of the situation.

The OP's current responsibilities are preventing him from nurturing the relationship face-to-face. If the girlfriend can't handle the distance anymore, then maybe it's best they move on from the relationship. What would you have done if you were in the OP's shoes?

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