Lady Considers Exposing Her Mother's Dark Side To Unsuspecting New Partner Before He Makes The Mistake Of Committing To Marriage

“He needs to know what he is getting into.”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• November 29, 2023

The world is filled with complex relationships, and sometimes, even the bonds between family members can turn toxic. For our narrator (Original Poster), her struggle with an abusive mother reached a breaking point in March.

OP had faced harrowing years of abuse and relentless assaults on her boundaries. Yet, not once did her mother deem it necessary to offer an apology.

After a disturbing incident involving her mother's relapse into alcoholism, OP decided enough was enough. She tucked her away in the past for good.

Now, fast forward to the present, and the story takes a shocking twist. OP’s brother let her in on a jaw-dropping revelation—Mom's new boyfriend shared not only Dad's name but also had a daughter with the exact name as OP.

Now, this might seem like a coincidence, but there was, in fact, an interesting backstory. OP's mother always considered her the black sheep and boasted she could “replace” her.

A chilling realization unfolded; OP couldn’t fathom the lengths she went through to make good on her declarations. 

But that wasn’t the end: After just two months of dating ‘Mr. Coincidence’ OP’s mother was already talking about tying the knot. Maybe only then could she finally have the ‘perfect’ family with the perfect daughter she always longed for.

This wasn’t really OP’s business, but she couldn’t ignore the fact it was psycho behavior. 

Should she play the hero and warn them about the potential chaos they were diving headfirst into?

Let’s dig into the details

A bit of background

OP is tempted to tell her mom’s new boyfriend about her toxic behavior before he decides to tie the knot

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

“NTA. The guy deserves to be warned at least. It's up to him if he chooses to believe you.”

“She abused you for years she deserves to never feel the happiness of marriage ever again.“

“Sometimes people are like cancer, you just need to cut them out of your life. NTAH.“

“As someone that has the exact type of mother you do, TELL HIM. If he doesn't listen, that is on him at that point.“

“NTA. You must explain the substitution to the BF.”

“Your best bet is to leave the whole situation alone and focus on your own well-being.“

“YWNBTA. That kid needs to be saved from what you endured.“

“NTA. Please tell him. He deserves to be warned in advance about what kind of person he's marrying.”

It would have taken a whole lot of effort for OP’s mom to intentionally search out her current boyfriend

OP elaborated on how her mother's relentless emotional abuse shattered her teenage self-esteem. Now, with the man's teenage daughter in the same troubled boat, OP was concerned.

Redditors agreed dropping a cautionary note wouldn’t be a bad idea. After all, if she’s rushing down the aisle after only two months, it's hard not to catch a whiff of a hidden agenda.

What he does with the information afterward is entirely up to him, but he deserves to know the truth.

What do you think about this story? Let us know in the comments.

Jesse