Family Tensions Arise As Young Man's Untold Cause Of Death Comes To Light At Funeral

"I interpreted my grandma and said Mel died from meth laced with fentanyl."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• January 11, 2024

Losing a young family member is tough, and everyone has their way of dealing with it. This story from Reddit is about a family that got into a big argument after a tragedy.

The story is about the OP's cousin Mel, who was 23 and had a rough life with drug problems. He lived with his grandma, who always thought he was just a smart but misunderstood guy.

When Mel died, his grandma told people at the funeral that he had always been sick and it was a heart attack that took him away. She made it sound like the hospital messed up and Mel's death was just a sad accident.

The OP couldn't stay quiet and told everyone the real reason: Mel died because of drugs, specifically meth mixed with fentanyl. They said this right at the funeral, which made Grandma upset.

She called the OP a snitch for telling family secrets. Then, the OP and their parents had to leave the funeral because of the drama.OP's dad made things worse by saying he was glad he'd never have to see his kid die like that.

Now, the grandma is upset and calling the OP's mom, crying about how mean everyone is. Some family members think the OP shouldn't have said anything about the drugs and should have just comforted the grandma.

OP's grandma consistently praised OP's troubled cousin, who began using drugs in middle school and faced two jail sentences.

At the funeral, she discussed the deceased's health issues and claimed that Mel's death from a heart attack was a tragic accident.

OP informed his grandmother that he passed away due to a lethal combination of meth and fentanyl and he shouldn't be romanticized as a tragic hero.

OP's grandma scolded OP for being a tattletale and revealing family issues.

Some family members believe that OP shouldn't have mentioned Mel's death and should have comforted Grandma instead.

OP was wrong for speaking negatively about the deceased during a funeral.

Regardless of whether OP's statements were true, he should have shown some respect and restraint.

Adding context at the funeral wasn't necessary.

This behavior is unacceptable.

Inappropriate behavior at a funeral.

OP needs to apologize and seek forgiveness.

Causing drama at a funeral was unnecessary.

OP should have shown some empathy during this time of loss, it wouldn't have been difficult.

What the OP did at the funeral wasn't right. He spoke negatively about the person who had passed away.

It doesn't matter if what he said was true; funerals are meant for remembering and respecting the person who died and supporting their family. Bringing up those negative things at the funeral created problems and made people upset. It was not the right time or place for it.

This behavior at a funeral is not considered appropriate. To make things better, the OP should say sorry to their family for what he did and try to make amends.

It's important to be understanding and kind when people are grieving.

Damjan