Woman Upset That Husband Would Rather See Northern Lights With Terminally Ill Niece Instead Of Going With Her To France

"This would definitely make me rethink the marriage for sure. I could never look at my spouse with anything but disgust after this one."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• October 7, 2024

A married couple is at odds over their vacation plans. The 29-year-old OP wants to push through with their planned trip to France, while her husband is considering joining his sister's family on their holiday to Fairbanks to see the aurora borealis.

The trip to Alaska is for her husband's niece. 23-year-old Anna has a terminal illness and wants to see the northern lights with her loved ones.

When OP's sister-in-law asked if they wanted to be on the trip, OP's husband said they could go to France another time. It's a sentiment OP doesn't share.

They have been planning their vacation to France for some time. Their hotels, flights, and other arrangements have been finalized, so OP is unwilling to alter anything.

OP said they only stopped short of booking everything because her husband decided to go to Fairbanks with his sister's family instead. OP told her husband that while she understood why he wanted to go to Fairbanks with his family, she wouldn't join him.

She wanted to stick to their plans and go to France. OP got upset when her husband insisted he needed to go with his sister's family.

She reiterated he was free to do so, but she wouldn't be beside him because she would rather go to France with her family. OP said he has been upset since.

OP believes her husband is being unreasonable about the situation.

When asked if they could go on both trips, OP had this to say.

It was implied that OP didn't need to go that far to see a place where the sun didn't shine.

Nearly 10k votes in the subreddit decided that OP was wrong, not her husband.

Just imagine how OP's husband felt after this situation revealed who she was. At this point, it would be better if they didn't extend the invitation to OP. She could make the trip all about herself and ruin it for his niece.

The suggestion that OP should go to France and stay there wasn't met with enthusiasm.

Some Redditors said it was unsettling that OP would even argue against this trip considering the circumstances.

On the bright side, OP's next husband might be more excited to go to France than her soon-to-be former spouse.

OP should reflect on why she thought a trip to France that hadn't been booked yet took precedence over supporting her spouse and his family on an emotionally loaded journey.

OP should try exercising a little empathy. It isn't too late yet to realize how selfish she has been and apologize to her husband.

OP's actions showed how little she cared for her husband and his family.

Redditors are notorious for suggesting divorce, but they might have made the right call this time. They said OP's behavior would be enough to end a marriage.

If their situations were reversed, do you think OP would stand for her husband insisting on an optional holiday instead of supporting her during a difficult time? To then call your spouse unreasonable over an argument that shouldn't have happened in the first place speaks to OP's character.

Do you think the Redditors made the right judgment call? What would you have done if you were in OP's situation?

Chelsi