Redditor Goes Frantic Over Pizza Crumbs On The Kitchen Counter, Demands That Stepdaughter Pays For The Damages To Her Home

"They also made pizza from scratch and left the crumbles on the counters"

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• April 15, 2023

Cleanliness is a highly subjective concept that can vary widely from person to person. What one person may consider clean and tidy, another person may view as messy and unkempt.

These differences in standards of cleanliness can cause tension and conflict, especially in shared living spaces such as homes, apartments, or dormitories. There are many factors that can influence a person's standards of cleanliness.

Some people may have grown up in households where cleaning was a high priority, while others may have grown up in more relaxed or cluttered environments. Personal preferences and habits can also play a role, with some people preferring a minimalist and uncluttered environment, while others may be comfortable with more items and decor in their living space.

What happens when these preferences collide? The story we have today describes one of those cases.

OP and her husband have been married for four years and have three children: two from previous marriages, (12M) and (10M), and (18F), who lives with them full-time. Recently, O, who just started college, has been bringing friends over to hang out at their house, and they are leaving a mess behind.

OP recently hired a housekeeper to clean the house once a week, but her friends made the entire house filthy before OP could come home. OP was upset by the mess and asked her stepdaughter to pay for the damages, or she would stop paying for her phone.

However, is insisting that she and her friends did not cause the damage and cannot afford to pay the phone bill if it is cut off. OP has video proof that her friends were responsible for the mess.

OP's husband is trying to make her let it go since has always struggled with making friends, but OP is not willing to overlook the expense and the mess. She wants to take responsibility for her actions and pay for the damages.

OP asks:

OP and her husband have been married for four years and have three children: two from previous marriages, (12M) and (10M), and (18F), who lives with them full-time.

Recently, O, who just started college, has been bringing friends over to hang out at their house, and they are leaving a mess behind.

OP recently hired a housekeeper to clean the house once a week, but her friends made the entire house filthy before OP could come home.

OP was upset by the mess and asked her stepdaughter to pay for the damages, or she would stop paying for her phone.

OP emphasizes again that the cleaning service is expensive

OP has a ring camera

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

OP might have ruined the relationship with her stepdaughter

How are footprints and pizza crumbs damage?

"This is an unlivable situation for everyone"

How can you be so upset over crumbs?

While it's understandable that OP is frustrated with the situation, it may be helpful for her to approach the conversation with (18F) in a compassionate and understanding way. It's possible that (18F) and her friends didn't realize the extent of the mess they were making and could benefit from guidance on how to be more considerate guests.

Ultimately, it's up to OP and her husband to decide how to handle the situation, but finding a solution that respects everyone's needs and feelings will be important for maintaining a healthy family dynamic.

Damjan