Moment Lady Turns Down Guy For Being Socially Incompetent And Ruining Their Friendly Dinner

"I shouldn’t put effort into pleasing weird men"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• May 29, 2024

It's a common experience for all of us to feel so uncomfortable in social situations that we would prefer to avoid talking to anyone at all. Perhaps you blurted out something improper, made a terrible joke, or forgot someone's name.

Whatever the case, there might be an awkward silence after that. You're not alone if the thought of striking up a conversation with strangers, going to networking events, or having small talk makes your heart race.

People who are socially awkward are unable to converse, mingle, or connect with others in a composed manner. They frequently misinterpret social cues or experience bodily anxiety, and they can be extremely afraid of making small talk with strangers and embarrassing themselves in public.

On the other hand, there are those who lack social skills, and they end up making a fool of themselves while thinking they are making sense. The OP was sitting at dinner with a friend of hers, a guy she met from her class, and he brought his friend along.

This friend was fine at first, but gradually, he became the most annoying person the OP has ever met. The OP had instances of social incompetence, and to top it off, he wanted her number.

The OP had to tell him that he was rude all night long, constantly interrupted them, and did not seem to understand any social cues. Read the full story below to understand what the OP is talking about.

The OP writes

This friend slowly became the most annoying person the OP has ever met

The OP was ready for this dinner to be over since he already ruined it

“I shouldn’t put effort into pleasing weird men or making them feel comfortable.”

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I went out to dinner with some friends and a guy that was there completely ruined the vibes by being super socially blind and rude to everyone. Just super annoying.

He asked for my number to hit on me at the end of the night and I didn’t just reject him but also snapped at him and told him why I didn’t like him. I might be the asshole because of my reaction and how aggressive I was in telling the truth.

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say regarding the story

OP's friend is wise, according to the OP

Giving them the time to speak

There is no reason for the OP to feel bad about it

He wanted to know why the OP was disinterested

The OP may have done him a huge favor

This Redditor would feel the same way

The OP did him a favor by letting him know

The OP revealed that she has struggled with ADHD since childhood and struggled with interrupting people. It finally took the OP 15 years to realize that it puts people off because nobody ever told her to stop until her dad said something about it.

The OP understands that it’s not as easy for others, but over the course of one singular night, she had told him so many times to stop doing it, and he refused to work on it. Eventually, the OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane