Young Couple Planning Small Wedding With Just 5 Guests, Best Man’s Partner Is Upset Because That Means He’s Not Invited

" Not even our families are invited after all."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• December 14, 2023

In a world where grand weddings often take center stage, many couples seek a different path. Preferring intimacy over spectacle, they opt for small ceremonies that focus on their love rather than public display. This story from Reddit highlights the challenges such couples face when their personal choices clash with social expectations.

OP of this story, a 30-year-old man, and his 31-year-old fiancée envisioned a wedding that was true to their personalities. Disinterested in traditional, large-scale weddings, they decided on a ceremony that felt right for them.

Their plan was simple yet meaningful: a gathering of just five people—themselves, their best man and maid of honor, and a friend to photograph the special day. No elaborate setups, no extensive guest lists, not even their families. Just a quiet celebration of their love and commitment.

However, this decision sparked unexpected tension. Frederik, the best man, found himself in a dispute with his partner, Roger.

Roger was upset about not being invited and argued that he wouldn't attend events where Frederik wasn't welcomed, expecting the same in return. This led to a confrontation between the couple, putting Frederik in a difficult position.

The OP stood firm, emphasizing the importance of their small and personal wedding plan. Despite understanding the upset it caused, they were resolute in not expanding their guest list.

This decision was even more poignant considering the OP and his fiancée hadn't been invited to Frederik and Roger's intimate wedding six years prior—a fact they had accepted without issue.

OP and his fiancée will have an intimate wedding with just five close friends to avoid the traditional ceremonies.

The best man's partner is upset he's not invited to the wedding, leading to a conflict, but OP and his fiancée won't change their plans,.

OP's best man decided to attend the wedding ceremony, it's worth noting that neither OP nor his fiancée were invited to Roger's wedding six years ago, which was also an intimate.

He's being unreasonable.

The couple believes that he should understand that the event is meant to be very intimate.

It's not appropriate to ask for a plus one when only three people are invited to the wedding.

This is an elopement with just two witnesses, not a typical wedding with guests.

OP already expressed his opinion, it is between them now.

His behavior is immature because he doesn't understand the distinction between a marriage ceremony and a wedding.

He is displaying immature behavior that could lead to unpredictable actions.

Excluding the best man's husband wouldn't be fair if other guests were bringing spouses, but since there are no other guests, and the maid of honor and photographer aren't bringing their partners, it's reasonable.

He should stop being self-centered.

If their family isn't attending, he also shouldn't expect special treatment.

The couple doesn't want a big wedding with lots of guests; they want it to be very intimate. Roger is being a bit selfish by expecting special treatment when other guests aren't coming either.

He's not understanding that this is not a typical big wedding. It's just a small, private ceremony. Everyone needs to understand that this is the couple's decision, and they've made it clear.

Frederik and Roger need to find a way to get along without causing more problems. Talking calmly and understanding each other can help them resolve this without causing drama.

Damjan