Couple Decides To Skip Dancing With Their Parents During Their Wedding But Groom's Mom Isn't Taking It Well

"Neither of us really wanted to do the parental dance"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• May 7, 2024

There are many tender and lovely moments at weddings. The parent's dance stands out as the most profound display of familial love among all those events. 

It's a unique moment during a wedding when the married couple gives their parents a little recognition before starting a new chapter in their lives together. During the parent's dance, which is a wedding tradition, the bride traditionally dances with her father and the groom with his mother.

The mother-son dance and the father-daughter dance are the names given to these dances. To show a strong relationship, the bride would dance with her dad at weddings in other to honor him.

This father-daughter routine is normally the opening dance. Subsequently, the father would give the bride to her spouse, thereby giving the groom the symbolic responsibility of caring for his daughter.

The mother-son dance is a relatively modern custom for weddings. As father-daughter dances became customary at weddings, this dance gained popularity.

It was believed that moms ought to be appreciated as well and that mothers and grooms ought to dance together. Well, this caused a stir as the OP and his bride scrapped any form of parental dance on the wedding day.

The couple was already dreading the first dance with everyone watching but were going to do it until something happened to the bride's dad. Read the full story in the OP's own words as you scroll down below.

The OP kicks off his story

The couple was pretty annoyed that the guest list had gotten so high

It seems like it would just put even more of a spotlight on the fiancee's dad not doing one

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

I could be the a-hole for not following the wedding tradition and having a dance between the groom and mother of the groom.

The Reddit post got hundreds of comments and below are some of the most upvoted ones

If the couple says no dance, then there won't be any

The entire post is the OP and his bride being bullied

They have already compromised by having a wedding

The bride can still dance with her dad in a wheelchair

It's the OP's wedding and his decision is final

The OP isn't making the decisions he wants to make

The OP can dance with the mom at the reception while everyone is dancing

They do not have to do the first dance alone

OP says that their adult lives started years ago, way before they got engaged. Apparently, there was a lot of pressure that the OP wouldn't have given into, but his fiance has dying grandparents who asked her to have a wedding, and she didn't want to tell them no.

OP says it's easier for him to be firm with his family, but he can't fault his fiance for not having that mind. Eventually, the OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane