Lady Bans Her Sister From Bringing Boyfriend To Her Wedding, Fears That Will Isolate Sister In Toxic Relationship

"I really hate how she isn't supporting me"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• July 21, 2023

Although every aspect of your wedding day, from the flowers and cake to the lighting and music, will be remembered in its own right, what people will likely remember the most are the individuals you shared this special day with. So, making your guest list might be one of the most difficult aspects of wedding planning.

Finalizing that guest list can become a significant task as couples want to avoid upsetting coworkers, distant relatives, or close friends while balancing their wishes with those of their families, venue restrictions with economic constraints, and other factors. But then, weddings are not performances or plays.

One mantra to keep in mind while you compile, cut, adjust, and polish your list is that only those you love and are close to should be invited. The original poster of today's story is getting married soon.

OP told her sister and maid of honor that her boyfriend was not allowed to come to the wedding, and she got furious. The thing is, OP's sister was already engaged to her partner of 10+ years, whom all of the family loved deeply.

OP's sister met her new boyfriend at work, and voila, he was married. Essentially, they both had affairs and left their partners to be with each other.

The OP has met this guy, and she does not like him at all, and his values are completely different than the OP's sister's.

The story's headline

OP's sister has been with her boyfriend for about 8 months and they have traveled together

The boyfriend's values are completely different than OP's sister's, which she believe opposites attract

The OP really hates how she isn't supporting her, as she is one of the OP's maids of honor

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

I told my sister that her boyfriend of eight months is not invited to my wedding

That might make me an a-hole because I am not inviting him because I genuinely don't like him-- do i my feelings aside to make my sister happy? If i don't invite him, she may not come to my wedding and already has not been to my bach party and bridal party because of my decision.

OP's story generated hundreds of comments and we've gathered up a bunch of them for you to read through below

This Redditor wouldn't attend if their partner was being excluded

She's making it clear she would choose the guy over her

OP's sister's actions seems extreme to this Redditor

She can do that on her own time

Hopefully, OP's sister would get over it

It's the fact that not everyone knows this information yet

This Redditor reveals what will warrant a no from them

Making a guest list can be difficult for couples because of all the expectations they feel they must meet and a long list of other people. Some Redditors couldn't understand why OP's sister would want to use OP's wedding to announce her bf to the family!

Clearly, OP's sister is trying to use the wedding to seek attention from their wider family, so OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane