A Bride-To-Be Calls Her Future Sister-In-Law 'Difficult' After She Turned Down The Role Of Maid-Of-Honor Due To Maternity Leave

"Maternity leave IS a vacation... IN HELL."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• March 25, 2023

New mothers are entitled to a kind of leave that’s called maternity leave. Although other people often think that it’s a long vacation, what it really is, are mothers taking a break from a job to focus on a more demanding job. 

In a r/AITA post, a bride-to-be made an assumption that her soon-to-be SIL was the best person to be her MOH because she was on maternity leave. She figured, who better to handle all the planning than a new mom who stays at home?

OP had known her SIL for a few years already and had been friendly with her whenever they saw each other at family gatherings. During the bridal party, the future SIL appointed OP as her maid-of-honor, which she politely declined.

OP reasoned that since she had just had her baby a few months prior, she wouldn’t be able to do the things expected of a MOH. There were also four more bridesmaids to choose from that would want to be responsible for the activities her future SIL wanted.

The future SIL agreed when OP said that she could be a bridesmaid but apparently told her fiance otherwise. She heard from her husband’s brother that her future SIL thinks that OP was lying because she’s on maternity leave which equals to her having a lot of free time.

Here's OP's question

OP and her future SIL have been getting along well whenever they see each other

OP turned down her request to be her MOH and with good reason, her BIL soon called her to tell her how his fiancée ventedd

The future SIL couldn't grasp the concept of OP's reconsideration and still ended up upset

There things to remember when you think about what maternity leave really is

One more thing, even if she asked OP, she had already assumed that she would say yes based on her perceived availability

Someone shared their experience as an MOH

It all seemed very reasonable and what the bride needed at the actual wedding

Tiring out your MOH shouldn't really be what brides would think as the norm

The expectations for both the wedding and everyone involved in it can get ridiculous

OP is suggested to relay what she really does within her maternity leave to make future SIL understand

If she really wants OP to be really involved in the wedding then maybe she should provide extra support to her

Future SIL might just get a wake up call when she's in OP's position regarding maternity leave

And being on maternity leave gives you enough space to enjoy a new phase in your life

No matter how much you love your baby as a new mom, vacation is a loose term for what chaos really goes on

OP is voted as NTA. They emphasized that the future SIL clearly has no idea how much work you put into trying to take care of your baby while on maternity leave.

Not only that but a lot of Redditors also shared experiences when they were MOH. It puts perspective on those brides who really expect everyone to do as they please if they're given such roles.

Chelsi