Lady Stands Her Ground After Her Sister And Sick Mom Spend Her Money Without Her Consent

What's going to happen now?

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• February 12, 2024

Even while you accept that aging is a fact of life, it still knocks you off balance when it comes to your parents. Though it is difficult to imagine your parents growing old and frail, a significant portion of the elderly population is chronically sick, incapacitated, or suffering from age-related illnesses.

They might even need long-term care in certain situations. Taking care of ailing parents can be difficult and tiring; nevertheless, we can't help but be there for them.

Often, it starts with attending to their medical needs before extending to other aspects of their lives. You truly take on the role of "parent to your parents."

The OP of today's story has her own apartment but is living with her mom because she's undergoing cancer treatment and needs all the help she can get. OP's sister can't drive or cook, so she drives mom to her appointments or when she needs to run tests.

The OP also cooks her some food whenever she doesn't feel well enough to do it on her own. The OP works full-time, and her sister works part-time from home, but the OP has a problem with them.

OP's mom and sister bought a second-hand sofa and had her pay for it to be cleaned without telling her. They just said they had the sofa cleaned, and the OP needed to pay for it.

It didn't end there, and you can read the full story below.

The headline

The OP drives her mom to her appointments or when she needs to run tests

The problem is not paying for groceries, but being caught by surprise

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I called my sister for spending my money without my consent. My mom said I shouldn't be angry because I also use the groceries.

The comments from other Redditors roll in...

They want the OP to pay a third of the groceries

The OP can help with the transportation

She should know better

The OP should take care of herself

The OP added this edit later on

I converted the currency very roughly because I don't live in the US and do not buy anything in dollars. But I spend around a third of a minimum wage in groceries every month. It's not a small amount of money.

The OP might be the one paying for the extras

The OP should move back to her apartment

The OP can't keep doing it all

They are using the OP

Taking care of your mother is a great example of being a loving daughter. OP's sister has to pick up some responsibilities and life skills because, despite the fact that OP is the one putting in the most work, her mother seems to support her sister.

Redditors understood that OP's mom is receiving cancer treatment and that she needs help, but the OP really needs to consider her own mental health. The OP was declared not the AH, and that's a wrap.

Maryjane