Woman Tells Older Sister To Shut Up And Listen To Her Oldest Kid, Sister Gets Defensive Instead Of Correcting Herself

"She said I was rude for telling her to shut up."

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• March 31, 2023

When a child is grounded, their rights are restricted for a predetermined amount of time in order to make them reflect on their behavior and come up with solutions to make it right. This method of discipline aids in teaching kids the significance of reasonable bounds and boundaries as well as the repercussions of breaking the law.  

Grounding kids helps parents enforce rules in a manner. However, the efficacy of this strategy depends on how a parent employs it.

Harsh penalties don't work to change a child's conduct.  Instead, they only fuel animosity.  If you discipline your kid too severely, he won't be considering the repercussions of his actions, only his resentment toward you.

He will only come to believe that you are unreasonable and unfair if you administer harsh penalties. However, this happens to be one of the easiest parenting pitfalls to commit. 

When you punish your kid severely, often in anger, you're not thinking about how to help them make better decisions in the future; instead, you're focused on winning the argument. In today's story, the OP mentioned that her older sister is the type of parent who never grounds her kids, even when they act up.

She got to sit her sister down to tell her to listen more to her older kids but instead, she held unto the fact that she was told to shut up.

And here is the story's title...

The OP and her partner do want kids eventually but for now, they are just traveling around and working from the RV

The OP and her partner tried to get him to talk and he said he would if they got him Taco Bell

The OP's sister is the type of parent who never grounds her kids, even when they act up

Her 10 y/o has good grades but hates sports and the friends he attracts are toxic

And the comments from other Redditors roll in...

You can just take the older one

Grounding is probably not going to help

She is enabling the bad behavior which is the 10 year old is exhibiting

She needs to parent

You told her the truth she didn't like hearing

Why did she even ask for help?

He only attracts the wrong crowd

Someone needed to stand up for him

You haven't exactly handled this with tact and compassion

The OP is worried her sister is hurting the relationship with the oldest

He needs to understand that life isn't always the same for everyone

The younger one needs a different kind of attention

The golden child

It's just causing direct issues

Your nephew needs you

Treat your kids equally

Your sister apparently has a golden child

Although understandable, the mentality of defeating your kid just isn't beneficial. That's because you're playing the wrong part when you get into that fight. 

Don't start a fight with your kid because you already have authority over them as this will only lead to a pointless power struggle. Drop your thoughts in the comments below.

Maryjane