Personal Life Coach And Lawyer Gives Important Lessons On How People Can Set The Proper Boundaries In Their Lives

If you don’t set boundaries in relationships, people won’t respect you

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• December 22, 2022

We’ve all been in situations where we felt like we were losing control and being dragged along by others. This is where boundary lines become crucial in our lives in order to restore our integrity and sense of control.

Healthy boundaries in relationships not only foster mutual respect among people but are also a form of self-care. They honor your needs and wishes by letting others know what is and is not okay for you.

This holds true to both your private and professional relationships, so knowing when and how to set boundaries is extremely valuable. Sadly, only a few people know how to do it correctly.

A properly defined boundary is always about the action you intend to take. It is best if people see it as a means to protect their integrity and self-worth.

A proper boundary always takes into consideration the truth that other individuals have free will and can do whatever they desire. Most people are not taught to think in this manner, which is why they have difficulty setting boundaries.

Instead of having to accept that others have the freedom to behave as they choose, most people spend their time arguing about other people's behavior, which gets them nowhere. Instead of seeking to control others and constantly sacrificing themselves to make others happy, people should create the lives they want to live and protect them at all costs.

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Olivia Vizachero, a lawyer and personal life coach shared an illuminating thread on her Instagram where she explained what a proper boundary is

Meet Olivia Vizachero, a lawyer and personal life counselor who helps people live lives with much less stress and far more fulfillment, and who shared an enlightening thread on her Instagram where she discussed how an appropriate boundary differs from what most folks think of as a boundary, which it is not. Her Instagram page is a treatise on how to learn how to set and maintain personal boundaries.

We have compiled lessons from her Instagram page for your reading pleasure. Scroll down to enlighten yourselves more.

Some examples of boundaries that aren't actually boundaries

You can't talk to me like that

You need to show up on time

You need to do a better job

Here are what boundaries are not

Instead, here is what boundary is

It just really helps to worry less about what other individuals think, how to accomplish what they want to do instead, and how to make objectives and follow through with achieving them. The problem with setting boundaries is that people say they value and prioritize them, but only a few know how to do so.

Here are some of the comments by people who loved the lesson.

A ridiculously applicable boundary

Helpful tips

A learning process

The number you're looking for

What this commenter did instead

If Then Else statement

Just inquiring

This commenter is thanking the smart lady

You have to set your boundaries yourself

Fantastic examples

"As a result of working with me, people truly get to lead the lives they've been dreaming of. It is the most fulfilling job imaginable," Vizachero says.

Some people didn't agree with the coach's view and they had this to say:

Boundaries written by Jeff Bezos

Sentiment is great

Being loose with the definition

Why do you have to explain more?

They are specific to behaviors

Healthy relationships with work

Gatekeeping boundary settings

They are often hard to apply

Enforcing your boundary

Assertive versus poor communication styles

Well, we've learned some important things here. It is a popular notion that if you don’t set boundaries in relationships, people won’t respect you.

Familiarity breeds contempt, and this is even worse if you don’t set and defend your boundaries. What are your thoughts on this issue?

Let us know in the comments section below.

Maryjane