Redditor Doesn't Allow Her SIL To Use The Crib Prepared For Their Newborn Baby, Gets Criticized For Being Selfish

"I don't feel comfortable with another child using my newborn's stuff"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• September 20, 2023

Expecting a baby is an exciting experience filled with anticipation and joy. For many parents, the preparation phase becomes a work of love as they meticulously choose and set up items for their forthcoming bundle of joy.

The desire for everything to be brand new for their newborn originates from their wish to provide the best and purest start in life, ensuring that every moment is as special and untainted as the new life they are about to welcome. Recently, a Reddit user forbade her cousin to use their new crib, prepared for their upcoming baby.

She faced criticism for her perspective; thus, she wanted to hear some unbiased opinions. The OP explained she and her husband are eagerly awaiting the arrival of their first baby.

They've bought all the necessary baby equipment, including setting up the crib, stroller, and other essentials. When the OP's sister-in-law visited with her 2-month-old baby, everything was going smoothly until the niece became sleepy.

Her SIL asked to use the OP's crib for her baby's nap. However, the OP didn't feel comfortable with the idea of another child using her unborn baby's belongings, even though she couldn't precisely identify the reason.

So, the OP declined the request, which caused an awkward situation, and the SIL left. The next day, the OP found out that her mother-in-law texted her husband, criticizing the OP's actions and labeling her as selfish and spoiled.

Now, the OP is torn between feelings of guilt for possibly denying the niece a comfortable nap and the belief that her soon-to-be-born baby should be the first to use its own bed.

Here is the OP's dilemma:

The OP explained SIL asked her if she could use their crib for her baby for a nap:

But the OP declined:

The OP's MIL called her selfish and spoiled, so she wanted to hear unbiased opinions:

The OP is a first-time mom, and it's completely understandable

A Redditor said that the baby could sleep anywhere

But another one disagreed

A Redditor wondered why a car seat is not safe for a nap

And someone explained

A Reddit user has a different opinion regarding the OP's dilemma

The OP was irrational

"This could've been a non issue instead of souring the relationship between her and SIL"

She should have let the baby sleep

The OP will understand it later when she becomes a mom

"Share, and be human"

"You could wash the crib sheet and it’s brand new"

They obviously don't know the risks

An eye for an eye

"Babies shouldn’t be sleeping an unsafe areas"

The OP was inconsiderate

"We all have to take care of each other and support each other particularly as parents"

Although the majority of Redditors supported the OP, many of them told her that she was being inconsiderate and selfish. Sho should have thought about her SIL's baby also; she wouldn't break her crib by using it for a nap.

But they also told her she would understand when she had her own baby.

Filip