Selfish Husband Pushes For Unnecessary Move To Another City, Risking Wife's Flourishing Business For His Personal Satisfaction

To Move or Not to Move?

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• April 2, 2024

In sunny Los Angeles, a woman (OP) who loves making special wedding cakes is facing a big choice.

For 22 years, she’s been baking beautiful cakes for weddings and other big moments right in her hometown. She’s built a successful business and has customers who are constantly looking forward to her unique cakes, such as exotic ganache, Black Forest cake, etc.

However, her husband wants to move to Boston. He thinks it’s time for a change, especially since he can work from anywhere now, just like some big companies allow.

But as a Los Angeleno who was born and raised there, she doesn’t want to leave the city. Moving means starting all over again with her cake business, and she’s not sure she can or wants to do that.

Her husband thinks she’s not being open to new ideas, calling her names like Scrooge and Grinch. But for her, it’s not that simple. Her cake-making can’t be done remotely; she needs to be in her kitchen, near her customers.

She’s also got orders to fill very soon, like a special cake for an upcoming wedding in Long Beach. And her business doesn’t just serve LA; she has customers in cities like Phoenix and Dallas too. Moving would mean leaving a big part of her life and work behind.

She wonders if she’s wrong for wanting to stay in LA, where her business, friends, and life are. She’s asking if wanting to keep her life and business as they are will make her an 'unreasonable' person.

Scroll down to find out the final verdict.

The story in detail

OP has a thriving cake business in LA that she’s been running for 22 years

However, OP’s husband wants them to move to Boston to get out of the “LA bubble.” The fact that he can work remotely makes it easier for him

OP, on the other hand, doesn’t want to move. Unfortunately, her husband didn’t take this lightly and even accused her of being close-minded

OP can’t imagine starting from scratch after amassing a strong clientele in LA

While OP’s husband can easily work remotely, her business doesn’t give her the freedom to do that

We gathered some reactions from the Reddit community:

OP’s husband doesn’t mind putting her business in jeopardy even tho his job doesn’t require him to move to Boston

“You could contact a business broker and sell your existing business and that cash could be your start up funds for your new business in Boston.”

“NTB. This is a decision that should be made by both parties and a big one.“

”How dare he call you selfish when you're the one who would have to give up a life-long home and a career you spent years building.”

“NTA. It takes a LONG time to build up an established client list for a business like yours.”

Commenters overwhelmingly supported OP, highlighting the significant impact a move could have on her established business. They stressed that such a critical decision should be mutual, not dictated by one person.

One Redditor accused OP's husband of being selfish since he wasn't concerned about how the move would affect OP's business. Rather, he just wanted to move for his personal satisfaction.

We'd love to get your thoughts on this story. Join the conversation in the comments.

Jesse