Person Shocks Best Friend By Revealing Secret Marriage Of Four Years, Asks If They're A-hole For Not Disclosing It

"I believe she is hurt that I never told her I was married in all the years we’ve been friends."

Sophia

• Published in Interesting
• April 30, 2024

Eloping is often seen as a romantic and private way to get married, where a couple skips a traditional wedding ceremony to marry quietly, sometimes even secretly. This choice is usually made to avoid the stress and expense of a large wedding or to keep the moment intimate and personal.

However, keeping an elopement secret from close friends and family can sometimes lead to hurt feelings or misunderstandings. For close friends, especially, finding out that they were kept in the dark about such a significant event can feel like a betrayal.

They might feel excluded or think that their relationship with the person isn't as close as they believed. It's understandable why someone might choose to elope and keep it private, but it's also reasonable for friends to feel upset if they discover this secret years later.

In the Reddit post discussed, the person casually mentions to their best friend, Meredith, that they have been married for years. This revelation shocks Meredith, who feels betrayed by the secrecy.

Although the marriage was a private affair and not meant to exclude anyone purposefully, Meredith's reaction underscores how important transparency can be in maintaining trust within close relationships.

Just take a look at this...

Four years ago, OP eloped privately, marrying without guests after five years together.

OP casually mentioned to their best friend Meredith that they've been married for years, shocking her and causing feelings of betrayal.

OP clarified their private marriage wasn't meant to exclude their friend and wasn't significant enough to announce.

Meredith just learned about OP's marriage. OP wonders if they're at fault for not telling her sooner.

Scroll down to see what people had to say...

"It's perfectly fine for you to want to keep that information to yourself and not share with anyone. Your choice."

Privacy meets secrecy: the ultimate disappearing act. Who knew elopement came with a side of mystery?

Ah, the classic 'surprise, she's excluded' move. It's no wonder she feels hurt and left out.

"I would be upset if my bestie didn't share something like that."

Keeping secrets is truly a deal-breaker sometimes!

"You are saying to her you have no confidence or faith in her at all."

"Friendship is based on mutual trust and sharing."

From BFF to CIA agent in one reveal. Who knew marriage could be a covert operation?

The weekend whispers: where every detail is a top-secret operation.

Friendship's fine line: break trust, lose the bond. Who knew secrets were friendship kryptonite?

The secret marriage saga: more suited for novels than friendships. Who knew weddings were such undercover affairs?

Conversation's disappearing act: big deals vanish like magic.

"If this is how you treat your 'best' friend, who needs friends like yourself."

Right?!

A resounding YTA, indeed!

"I would be weirded out and I would recontextualise our friendship."

"What's the big secret?"

In the tale of the secret wedding, the plot twist wasn't the marriage but the revelation. Sometimes, 'I do' turns into 'You didn't!' revealing that in friendships, as in marriages, the little vows of transparency matter just as much as the big ones.

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Sophia