Fighting Ensues As Woman Chooses To Ignore Her Kid's Screeching Tantrums Only For Husband's Niece To Report Her In Their Family's Group

"We typically pretend the other doesn’t exist"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• January 25, 2024

A young child's tantrum is an outward manifestation of their displeasure with their restrictions or the annoyance that comes with not getting their way. An outburst brought on by frustration could turn into a temper tantrum.

These little ones don't intend to annoy or humiliate their parents as most toddlers use tantrums as a means of expressing their frustration. Tantrums are likely to persist if you give in to your child's demands or let them use them as an excuse to get out of doing tasks.

Generally speaking, the best way to handle a tantrum is to remain composed. Your toddler may mimic your behavior if you react with loud, angry outbursts and it's also probably not a good idea to yell at a child to stop acting up.

So remaining composed and deliberately disregarding the behavior is the best course of action while handling a toddler's temper tantrum. This entails averting your eyes from the child, acting differently toward them, and refraining from conversing or interacting with them.

The OP followed this rule in dealing with her three-year-old tantrums pretty often. At home, she would just ignore him and let him screech, scream, and trash around.

Sometimes the OP has to wear noise-canceling headphones and cover her baby's ears while he’s throwing tantrums. Apparently, her husband’s niece thought it wise to record her and post it on their family's group.

Keep scrolling to read the entire story for yourself below.

OP writes

The husband's niece doesn’t pay rent or do house chores

The kid usually would calm down after an hour

It means Jessica had said something to them before

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1. AITA because I ignore my kid’s tantrums at home. 2. I might be TA because there was someone else in the house while he was throwing tantrum. It might be an inconvenience for them.

The Reddit post got close to a thousand comments and here are a bunch of them

A calm and clear direction

That's probably for the best

How is ignoring him teaching him?

The OP revealed more in the comments saying:

I have actually thought that maybe I’m traumatizing him by triggering it over and over again. But I honestly don’t know what else to do if my end goal is for him to properly say things, I thought I have to teach him to say it even if he’s upset about it. Or if he was upset about me saying no candies then I want him to know that once I said no it means no. If he asked again I would say no again and that would make him cry again.

They have big feelings

What isn't good is ignoring him

YouTube as a reward is off the table

The OP should parent her own way

It is typical for toddlers and young children to have tantrums. These tantrums—crying, kicking, and screaming—are normal developmental stages that give our kids a means to express their displeasure or annoyance at a situation or reaction, usually when they don't get what they want or have their way.

Redditors say that Jessica needs to learn she can't air the family's internal issues and still expect to be able to stay there. Eventually, the OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane