AITA For Saying No In My Sleep

Can we be held accountable for our actions while we’re asleep?

Davy

• Published in Interesting
• May 29, 2024

A 17-year-old recently recounted a puzzling incident on Reddit involving a sleepover with his 16-year-old friend. The two friends, both identifying as part of the LGBTQ+ community, shared a bed for the first time.

While the host enjoyed the night, the next morning was met with unexpected tension. The friend was visibly angry and revealed that around 3 AM, she had asked for a blanket multiple times, and he had responded with "what?" followed by a definitive "no" each time before turning over.

The host was baffled, as he had no memory of this interaction, assuming he must have been asleep during the exchange. Despite his explanation and his attempts to laugh off the confusion, his friend remained upset and decided to leave. Now, she refuses to speak to him.

When he shared the story with their mutual friends, they sided with the friend, labeling him a rude host even though the incident occurred while he was asleep. This left him questioning how actions performed unconsciously can impact perceptions of rudeness and responsibility.

The Story.

The Reddit community had mixed reactions to the story. Some empathized with the boy, pointing out that actions taken while asleep are not within one's control.

Others suggested that the friend might have been feeling more vulnerable or insecure, thus explaining her strong reaction to being refused, even unconsciously.

NTA - maybe she thought you were being rude by laughing? you say crazy stuff when sleep talking it does not come filtered from personal experience… no further comment on that one…

Wtf? Your friends are weird. NTA.

Show her this thread full of other people who talk in their sleep. Plus hopefully OP is usually not a hoarder of all things in real life and has plausable deniability...so the friend will come around.

Info: Did you not give them a blanket before you guys went to sleep?

NTA. But if you end up having another sleepover, you might want to point out where the extra blankets are so your friend can get one.

Do you think the boy should be held accountable for actions he had no control over while he was sleeping? Or is the friend's reaction an overreaction to an innocent misunderstanding? Share your thoughts and let us know how you would handle this awkward situation between friends.

Davy