Man Ruins Sister's Gender Reveal Party Because She Took The Name Meant For His Dead Baby

They just agreed whoever had a daughter first could use the name

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• April 27, 2023

Over the past few years, the popularity of gender reveal parties has soared. Finding out whether you're having a boy or a girl is one of the most exciting aspects of being pregnant, and having a gender reveal party is a fun way to involve friends and family.

The procedure is as follows: a doctor makes a note of the baby's sex on a piece of paper without informing the expectant parents. The pair then instructs a bakery to prepare pink or blue cakes or cupcakes after making their decision. 

Or they ask a buddy to put pink or blue balloons in a package. The couple announces whether they are expecting a boy or a girl by cutting the cake or opening the box during the celebration.

It's exciting and entertaining, but what happens when the baby's name becomes an issue? The original poster of today's story and his sister are both married.

They had a grandma who sadly passed away when they were in high school. So they both plan on naming a child after their grandma.

Both didn't really fight about this per se and just agreed that whoever had a daughter first could use the name. This turned out to be one bad move, as it resulted in a big fight at the end.  

The story's title

The OP did a gender reveal where they announced they were going to use the name Victoria

The OP and his wife get to the party and all is great until they get to the gender/name reveal

The OP also added this edit saying:

I think people may be confused about this and this is my fault for using the wrong words. When i say miscarried, my wife gave birth to a stillborn. while our daughter was never alive, my wife gave birth to her, it was just too early for the baby to live sadly. Our daughter is buried in a grave that says Victoria, which I think is part of the reason I was so upset.

Here are some of the replies left by other redditors in the comments section

Take care of yourself and your wife and allow yourself to grieve

The OP lost his child and this Redditor is so sorry about it

The OP's mom seems not to care about the OP's loss

She was a baby who didn't get to join us in the world

It truly hurts to imagine such a moment

This Redditor believes the OP's sister has every right to use the name

Has the OP's sister ever visited the baby's grave?

So sad

This was agreed before anyone became pregnant, but now it's a more difficult situation with the passing of OP's daughter. Redditors didn't know if this would be acceptable as a solution to everyone now as it feels less about honoring the grandmother now because of how the sister feels like she "got" the name back.

In the end, the OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane