Reddit User Feels Uncomfortable In His Home Because Of His Roommate's Rude And Disrespectful Girlfriend

The girlfriend comes over often and she's always rude to OP.

Senad

• Published in Interesting
• September 20, 2023

Sharing your living space with someone can be both rewarding and challenging. When the person you're sharing it with is a long-time friend, it might seem like smooth sailing.

However, as OP discovered, introducing a new element into the living situation, in this case, a roommate's girlfriend, can create unexpected waves.

OP's story began in 2014 when they purchased a house and invited a long-time friend to move in with them. The arrangement seemed perfect: affordable rent for the friend and companionship for OP. Their compatibility as introverts and mutual respect made for an agreeable living situation. For a year and a half, everything went smoothly.

The harmony took an unexpected turn when the roommate started dating a girl four months ago. The girlfriend, despite being a guest in OP's home, began exhibiting behavior that left OP feeling uncomfortable and unwelcome.

One of the primary issues was her lack of politeness. When she entered the house, she often bypassed greetings, seemingly avoiding OP, and walked straight into the roommate's room. It was as if she was trying to pretend OP didn't exist.

When OP tried to engage in conversation, she frequently ignored him, and it required the roommate's intervention to prompt a response. This lack of basic courtesy deeply troubled OP. Adding to the discomfort, the girlfriend was vocally expressive but not in a pleasant way. When OP was not in the room, she would speak loudly, often yelling or complaining.

To compound matters, she insulted OP's hobby, making derogatory comments about his home brewing passion. She also had strong opinions on smoking marijuana, subjecting OP's roommate to a lengthy lecture.

To top it off, the girlfriend frequently sang when she was around. While this might not be an issue in different circumstances, it grated on OP's nerves due to her overall rudeness and lack of engagement in any meaningful conversation.

One significant source of frustration for OP was the feeling that the girlfriend was attempting to redefine the rules of his home. Even though she didn't reside there, she seemed to be exerting influence over what was acceptable behavior.

OP bought a house in 2014 and he asked a friend to move in with him

Everything was going great until OP's roommate started dating his current girlfriend

The girlfriend has been nothing but rude towards OP

The girlfriend told OP that the beer he brews looks like diarrhea

OP feels uncomfortable around the girlfriend

She spends around 4 nights a week in OP's house

OP pointed all of this out to his roommate, but to no avail

Lay down the law

Time for OP to put his foot down

Save the friend

Dealing with such a situation can be challenging, especially when it involves a close friend. OP had attempted to communicate his concerns to his roommate but found the responses lacking. His friend acknowledged the girlfriend's behavior but didn't take any concrete steps to address the issue.

So, what can he and anyone else facing a similar predicament do in this situation? OP should assert what behaviors are acceptable in their shared home and where the line is drawn.

Senad