Redditor Tired Of Her Parents' Attempts To Make Up For Their Bad Reaction To Her Coming Out- Decides To Go NC

"At almost every opportunity my mum is trying to do something nice for me now'"

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• January 13, 2023

Family dynamics and relationships can be challenging, especially when a child comes out as gay. The family may experience various emotions, including shock, sadness, anger, and confusion.

The family may also experience feelings of guilt or responsibility for their child's sexual orientation, even though these feelings are unfounded. And we have one of those stories today.

OP had a difficult and scary experience two weeks before Christmas when they came out to their parents. Their mum had previously said hurtful things about being a lesbian but denied ever having said them when confronted.

OP texted their parents that they weren't going to be around for Christmas, and their dad called, but OP was working and could not answer the phone. Their parents then showed up at their work, and OP asked them to leave.

For Christmas, OP exchanged presents with their family but did not spend much time there. Since then, their mum has been trying to do nice things for them, such as inviting them for dinner, but OP doesn't feel comfortable and finds it disingenuous to accept the hospitality.

Their dad has been sending pictures of their dog in the family chat but hasn't tried to contact OP otherwise.

OP asks:

OP had a difficult and scary experience two weeks before Christmas when she came out to her parents.

OP texted their parents that they weren't going to be around for Christmas, and their dad called, but OP was working and could not answer the phone

Their parents then showed up at their work, and OP asked them to leave.

For Christmas, OP exchanged presents with their family but did not spend much time there. Since then, their mum has been trying to do nice things for them, such as inviting them for dinner, but OP doesn't feel comfortable and finds it disingenuous to accept the hospitality.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:

This Redditor asked a good question:

This is manipulation

"No one is entitled to your forgiveness"

OP should speak to them to have some clarity over the situation.

OP shared some additional information

This Redditor is confused

OP responded

It feels weird to them

It's not good to be around unsupportive people

Well, this was an interesting story, and it looks like OP is overreacting here. Her parents are trying to reach out and shower her with attention.

Those bastards! How dare they?

Family dynamics and relationships can be challenging, The family must come together to understand and accept their child's identity and sexual orientation to create a healthy and safe environment. This can be difficult as it requires a shift in the family's beliefs and values.

However, it is essential to recognize that no matter what, the family should love and support their child unconditionally. However, these parents look like people who realized they weren't supportive enough and are now trying to make up for it.

OP sounds like a spoiled brat who expected a big party to celebrate her coming out.

Damjan