Man Refuses To Make Wedding Dress For Homophobic SIL Who Insulted His Craft, Asks If They're A-Hole

"She's offered to pay me for my work but that's not the issue, it feels like she likes my work but doesn't respect me, hell even disrespects me, for making dresses."

Sophia

• Published in Interesting
• June 11, 2024

Crafting wedding dresses is an art that combines creativity, patience, and a lot of skill. Imagine dedicating your time and energy to create something beautiful, only to have your efforts belittled by someone close to you.

This is precisely the situation one man found himself in. He had always loved making things, from woodworking to fabric, and even made his wife's wedding dress when she couldn't find one that suited her style and budget.

His craftsmanship received many compliments, except from his sister-in-law, Sara, who made some harsh and homophobic remarks about him making dresses. Her cold attitude persisted for years, making family gatherings uncomfortable.

Fast forward to Sara's engagement, and suddenly, she wants him to make her wedding dress. Despite offering to pay, it feels like a slap in the face. How could she value his work but not respect him as a person?

He refused, explaining that her past comments hurt him deeply. This decision sparked a family feud, with relatives pressuring him to accept her offer, claiming he should forgive and forget.

However, his stance is about more than just making a dress—it's about respect and standing up for oneself. This situation highlights the importance of respect and boundaries, even within families.

Just take a look at this...

OP loves crafting and made a dress for his wife when she couldn't find the right one.

Though not an expert, he made a dress that turned out amazing, earning compliments on their wedding day.

Most were surprised he made the dress, but his sister-in-law, Sara (25F), was upset and made homophobic remarks.

Since then, Sara has been cold and avoids direct conversation, but he rarely sees her as she lives in another state.

Sara's engaged and wants him to craft her wedding dress, but he's not feeling the love for this project.

She's offered to pay him, but it feels like she appreciates his work while disrespecting him for making dresses.

Sara is upset about past remarks. Is OP in the wrong for this?

Scroll down to see what people had to say!

NTA. His self-respect trumps the dress. She had her chance. He should keep his talent valued.

Triple the estimate; that's his "show me the money" deal. It's his way of saying, "For the right price, he's all in."

Factor in fabric, machine wear, and a living wage. Pay upfront, before he threads a needle.

For 30k, even his worst enemy gets a dress with cursed stitches. He'd take the cash and jet off for an epic vacation!

Feel free to make her a dress if she insists, but beware the drama woven into every stitch.

Pushback equals lack of respect. And that bill? Definitely going unpaid. NTA.

Insulting him to his wife? Talk about a rookie move! (She did spill the beans, after all.)

Treats him like dirt, then asks for a favor? Classic. Still waiting on that apology.

Apparently, she's still stocked up on disdain. Funny how she forgets her words, isn't it?

Does she ever admit her wrongs, or does she think they expire like old milk?

Tell her to buzz off, and Dad can sew her dress if he's so keen.

Cold treatment, hot manipulation—she's the walking drama.

NTA. SiL wears her BS; others stitch her dress. His artistry? Reserved for the worthy.

Stirred pot, seeking profit? Weak move. He's steering clear.

In the end, it's not just about stitching fabric; it's about threading respect through every interaction. He realized that a wedding dress might last a day, but dignity? That’s for a lifetime. Sometimes, the best creations come with the strongest boundaries. Guess who won't be wearing bespoke?

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Sophia