Redditor Refuses To House Cousin In His Spacious Home Due To Their Conflicting Lifestyles, Gets Tagged As 'Selfish' By Family Members

“My house, my choice!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• May 4, 2023

Getting a home is one of the most expensive things several people have to do in their lives. 

Research from the U.S. Census Bureau shows that the average price of a single-family home was $346,000 as of January 2021. This price has continued to increase.

Further research shows that the major cause of this expense is the lack of supply. The US alone has a deficit of 3.8 million units needed to meet current demand.

Many people opt to live with others to save on housing costs. While this can be a great solution, it can cause some problems of its own.

We found one Redditor unwilling to accommodate his cousin and wife in his house for a year due to some of these problems.

OP shared on the AITA subreddit that their grandmother had left their mother a five-bedroom Georgian-style home as an inheritance. 

Before her death, OP’s grandmother had mentioned that she wanted the house to remain in the family for generations. So even though the house wasn’t easy to maintain, OP continued to maintain it. 

OP’s favorite cousin requested to move into the house with his wife, whom OP doesn’t get along well with. OP refused to allow this, which made their cousin and his wife upset, as they felt OP should have taken more time to consider their request.

Although OP’s mother agrees with their decision and states that they are not to allow anyone to move in, OP’s family members on his father’s side believe they are being selfish. OP then asked the court of Reddit for their opinion.

Check out the verdict below!

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Here's how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

"You do not owe your home to anyone. That's an insane boundary they crossed by assuming it would be ok"

"They just want to mooch off your nice house."

"OP you need to watch out for this cousin, he may be your favorite but he is trying to take advantage of you"

"Do not ever let them in: once they are inside, you will not get them out"

"It’s your moms house still, technically, and if she said no then no"

"Having extra space =/= having to allow people to stay with you rent free so they can buy houses."

"NTA...They're tired of slumming it so the solution is to move in with you? Sounds like a plan!!"

"Your cousin sounds like the kind of mooch who will eventually need to be evicted."

The commenters believe OP is NTA in this case. Many stated that they could sense some form of entitlement from OP’s cousin and his wife.

They further assured OP that allowing them to move in would be a mistake, as getting them out in the future may be a problem. Do you agree with the commenters?

Share your thoughts with us.

Jesse