Woman Turned To The Internet To Solve A Thanksgiving Dilemma To See If She Had Done The Right Thing Or Not

Family gatherings can be toxic sometimes.

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• December 14, 2021

Among the most beloved holidays in the US, Thanksgiving is perhaps the most cherished one. A Thanksgiving celebration should be about a family coming together, sharing, loving, and being thankful for all they have, but these family gatherings can be stressful sometimes.

Traditional Thanksgiving meal consists of a roasted turkey, stuffing, homemade cranberry sauce, mashed potatoes, iconic pumpkin pie, and many others, so we can easily conclude that preparing Thanksgiving dinner requires a lot of effort. And don’t get me wrong, this is a great way to strengthen the family bond but, if all the planning and preparing falls on one person, then for that person, this is a very exhausting time of the year.

Reddit user with the username u/FinalBlackberry is familiar with that from a personal experience, and that was just the case for which she had decided to turn to the Reddit community. In r/AITA, the woman wrote that for the past four years, she had “single-handedly” cooked the dinners for Thanksgiving and Christmas for her fiancé’s large family and that she had had it enough.

“So my fiancé has a rather large family. Parents, two brothers with significant others, numerous adult nieces and nephews, and their partners and there’s usually always some distant aunt, uncle, or cousin that tags along. I have two family members that join Holidays. This year neither will be able to attend. Last year one was present.“

After telling her partner that she had no intentions to cook this year because she was not feeling well, his reaction was self-centered and heartless. He said, “but that’s our tradition “, “can’t you at least make some boxed stuffing or something”, but she was determined and did not relent.

Most commentators on Reddit took her side and supported her. Scroll down to get the whole picture.

The question that caused a real storm.

“There’s a lot of logistics behind cooking for a large crowd”.

Although she had asked everyone to bring at least one dish with them the previous year, no one brought anything. Luckily she made enough food for everyone.

The worst part is that no one has ever thanked her.

Even though she nicely explained to her fiancé the reasons why she had refused to host the Thanksgiving, his reaction was not worthy of admiration. He even got mad and did not speak to her.

Oops seems like the story got an interesting plot twist.

u/FinalBlackberry even did the update after the Thanksgiving.

1. Redditor u/Triplexic agreed with the OP (original poster).

“Personally kills the holidays for me”.

2. u/Haybaleryt gave some really good advice.

3. Support just kept coming.

4. ”Who invites themselves because they were invited last year?”

5. That is an excellent question.

6. “There's nothing wrong with that, you're not a restaurant and isn't the point of holiday gatherings to be together”.

7. That was the least they could do to help, but they didn’t…

8. One Redditor explained that “this is a problem with the basics of their relationship”.

9. A proof that this situation is more common than you think.

10. Good suggestion.

11. “NTA. He is. 100%.”

12. After all, it is his tradition, not yours.

13. One Redditor was glad that ”the fiancé” saw the post because he could see how ridiculous he was.

14. Words of wisdom.

15. It appears like OP became indifferent.

16. Of course it would be nice.

This story attracted a great deal of attention, it received more than 25.1k upvotes. If we look at everything we can conclude that everyone was on u/FinalBlackberry’s side and had supported her decision.

What do you think? Did this woman make the right decision? Write your opinion in the comment section below.  

Filip