Man Refuses To Refund Friend For A Party She's Not Attending, Gets Bad-Mouthed For It

"Go to work and make your money back instead of trying to shake down your friend”

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• January 22, 2023

Every birthday deserves to be celebrated, and unlike most others throughout the year, a birthday party is always centered on a single special guest. A birthday celebration is your prime opportunity to honor the life of someone special to you, whether they are a kid, parent, spouse, or anyone else.

The kind of party you host for a birthday determines who you should invite. It is advisable to invite your friends' coworkers and best friends to your birthday party if it will be held in an Instagram-worthy cafe with music and hard drinks on the rocks.

Invite those who will contribute positive and happy energy, just like this redditor did. Yes, the OP is organizing a birthday party at a bar in the city they live in for a mutual friend.

A little over 20 people were invited, so each person paid their own share. One of the invitees, Mara, said something about misreading the dates and having some big thing with her sister that night, so she could not attend.

That is okay, but then she wants a refund of the money, and the OP couldn't do that as he has already paid for the location. The OP says her poor planning is not his problem, and just because he can afford to pay her doesn’t mean he should.

Read the full story below. 

The OP writes:

She has some big thing with her sister that night and she could not attend

Her poor planning is not my problem and just because I technically can afford to pay her doesn’t mean I should

Here are the edits the OP added later on

We've gathered some of the top comments from redditors for you to read through below

None of you sounds like a real friend to the other

Not everything has a refund guarantee

It still wouldn't be any of her business

If she can find someone, then that's an option

This redditor organizes group activities all the time

Plan better and decline from the start

She started bad mouthing you for nothing

She should have checked her dates before confirming

Find someone else to take their place

He paid it when it was a sealed deal and no one spoke up

This will be a good lesson for her

She is a grown adult who made a mistake

For this redditor, the OP handled it properly

It is part of being an adult

She needs to learn to be more careful next time

She's using your family's money against you

Let's say this was like a group gift

A price was agreed for a set number of people

Sometimes, deposits are not refundable

Birthday celebrations have always been fun for all. Everyone enjoys going to birthday parties, whether they are young or elderly.

However, when it's your friend's birthday celebration, the atmosphere becomes a little more tense. On that particular day, all the good vibes tend to come at once, but then, a party's visitors are its heart and soul.

So drop your thoughts about this story in the comments below.

Maryjane