Redditor Takes Vacation With Friends Just One Week After Boyfriend Relocates To Her Country, Faces Criticism For Ignoring Him

"Since he’s coming permanently I feel we have enough time for each other after."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• August 28, 2023

Long-distance relationships are the hardest ones. They require trust, a lot of communication, and patience.

But, despite its challenges, long-distance relationships can strengthen partners' bond and appreciation for one another. So when a Reddit user and her boyfriend found themselves in a long-distance relationship, they decided to stay together and began making plans to live together.

The OP mentioned that she and her boyfriend have been in a relationship for nearly three years, with the majority of the recent years spent in a long-distance relationship across continents due to the OP's academic commitments. Her boyfriend intends to relocate to her country this autumn.

However, a potential issue has arisen. The OP has an opportunity to go on a four-day vacation with her school and friends to a neighboring country.

This trip is particularly appealing to the OP as it may be her last chance to travel with her schoolmates. But the trip is set for a week following her boyfriend's arrival.

When the OP discussed this with him, he expressed disappointment, feeling that the OP might be prioritizing her friends over their relationship. The OP explained that if it were just a short visit from her boyfriend, she wouldn't even consider going on a trip, but since he's relocating permanently, she believes they'll have plenty of time together afterward.

The OP is unsure and facing a dilemma about this matter. So she asks if she would be in the wrong if she proceeded with the trip plans.

Here is the OP's dilemma:

She explained she really wanted to go on a four-day vacation with her friends:

But she's in a dilemma because the trip is scheduled for one week after her boyfriend's arrival:

Redditor told her to try to see things from her boyfriend's perspective

A red flag for the OP

But another Redditor disagreed, saying the boyfriend is a grown man

The trip is only for four days

"There will be plenty of future opportunities to hang out with your bf"

A Redditor said they wouldn't go if they were the OP

On one side, it's a short trip, but on the other...

He's an adult and doesn't need to be babysit

"The timing isn’t great, but the trip is a one and done opportunity"

"It's 4 days, not the end of the world"

She should reconsider her priorities

In the realm of relationships, long-distance ones are undeniably among the most challenging. They demand trust, constant communication, and an unyielding reservoir of patience.

Yet, these challenges often create a deeper bond between partners. Given these particular circumstances, some Redditors agreed with the OP, while the majority didn't and told her to cancel the trip.

They believe she is neglecting him and his feelings and that she should reconsider her priorities. But what do you think?

What would you do if you were in the OP's shoes? You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section below.

Filip