Dad Shoots Down Daughter’s Plans For Graduating From First-Choice College With No Debt Because It Would Mean Her Moving In, And He Has No Room Because Of Dogs

The consequence of not wanting your daughter close is having her far.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• March 23, 2023

Choosing a college is a huge decision for many students. Some students even know the college they want to attend right from the moment they know there’s such a thing as college. 

This is because many believe that this singular decision will determine the rest of their lives, so they put a lot of effort into making it.

They make plans and set their grades in motion for them to get into their dream school as early as possible. 

Unfortunately, going to college is too expensive for some people, and without a scholarship or in-state tuition, they can’t afford it. 

One Redditor shared that his daughter tried to get ahead of this and asked him if she could move in with him to get access to in-state tuition, but things didn’t go as planned.

Although OP’s daughter fell in love with a school close to him and wanted to take advantage of the close proximity, his response to her request to move in with him was a “no.” He told her this was due to lack of space, even though he lives in a two-bedroom condo with one room serving as an office his wife barely uses.

OP’s daughter then decided to choose a college across the country, which worried him as he felt the distance was too much.

He then turned to the court of Reddit to share their two cents. Scroll down to see what they thought!

Let's dig into the details

OP's daughter was interested in getting into a school close by and asked to move in with him in order to qualify for in-state tuition

OP declined, sighting that his house didn't have enough space. Now she has decided to move across the country, far away from him

We gathered some reactions from the Reddit community:

"YTA...You could have literally had her in your home but shot her down."

"She’s going across the country from you because you made it clear you didn’t want her around."

"YTA...You told her no because you have dogs."

"YTA. You have made it clear to your daughter that you don’t have room for her in your life"

We might not have to wait too long

"YTA. You ghosted your daughter instead of calling her right away and are now unhappy that she chose a different school far away from you."

"The issue is more that you really don’t want to change your lifestyle to accommodate your own daughter."

"One year. And you can't be bothered with her? I don't think she can get far enough away from you now, good job!"

"YTA thats your daughter and you don't want her to stay with you."

"...'Lack of space' is a shitty excuse to give your own daughter. I understand why she's hurt.

"You are just another crappy father who abandons their child."

The commenters believe that OP is the AH. According to them, the message he has sent to his daughter is that he doesn't want her around, so she's only reciprocating the energy.

Some commenters warned him that his daughter might never forget this, which will affect their relationship in the future.

What do you think about OP’s response to his daughter’s request? Let us know in the comments below!

Jesse