Brother and Sister-In-Law of A Redditor Upset With His Family For Not Attending His Destination Wedding

Seems like 'accountability' isn't on this guy's dictionary, but immaturity surely is.

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• December 12, 2021

There is a lot of stuff that can make a person turn crazy, weddings are one of them. Wedding preparations can easily turn someone into a bride or groomzilla, it’s all the stress they say.

This doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be held accountable and suffer the consequences when they turn into massive jerks. Empathy and patient for them can only go so much.

In this Am I The A**hole post, a Redditor recounted how her brother and sister-in-law didn’t take serious concerns from their family before the wedding and was later blamed for dealing with it the best way they can.

It started when the couple wanted to have a destination wedding. OP’s family disclosed to her brother that a lot of members from their side wouldn’t be able to come to the wedding.

They said it's due to some serious concerns, from the grandparents of OP who was at that time, heavily pregnant. The brother instead just threw an “Our wedding, our rules. Don’t like it, don’t come.”

OP’s family still tried to help out with the preparations but when the couple found out that they wouldn’t be able to come to the wedding, they decided to lessen the communication with family and detach.

OP's post is below:

Everyone still tried to show their support and OP even tried to pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses but she was met by a screaming brother calling her a spoiled entitled brat. The brother went as far as blocking her and doing the same to the rest of the family.

Their mother, who was battling breast cancer at that time, was one of the people who got upset. Soon, she passed and the family decided to reconcile during a dinner.

The excitement of the brother and sister-in-law to show wedding pictures and share stories was met with a cold shoulder by everyone. And being as dense as they are, pulled all the siblings aside to ask them why they have an attitude with him.

One by one, their siblings told him what they think with OP giving him the last punch. “You got your big day, you now have to deal with the consequences. 

The couple left extremely upset but they merely excused their exit as a fake emergency. OP afterward received an email from her brother about how he didn’t like their attitude towards him and hadn’t apologized for missing the wedding.

First and foremost, here’s a surprised Pikachu face when the brother found out that nobody actually came

A lot of people commended OP’s patience with her brother and pointed out his immaturity

It wasn’t like OP lacked in trying to make her brother understand the situation beforehand

This is a great metaphor and a perfect description of how the brother is acting

The brother really traveled the road most lonely

Jot this down if the brother wants to throw another destination tantrum

The priorities of the brother and his wife seemed to blur out which are more important

Not to diss on destination weddings, but in the brother’s case, did it really make sense to have if you’re gonna feel butthurt about your family not being able to attend?

Other than actually finding out if your family members can come this is also a good thing to consider

So how childish did OP’s brother act?

He didn’t consider that her sister would be distracted with his drama rather than celebrating her new baby or mourning for their mom

It’s not a big deal, it’s not like it’s hard being THAT pregnant

Even if OP tried to follow the wishes of her brother, Redditors doubt if he’ll be able to not make things still about him

In all seriousness, the fact that OP’s brother only considered his wants and not even the hassle his family is going to go through is borderline childish

The brother dug a really deep hole and was dense enough to wonder why he’s suddenly stuck

The consequences that her brother and sister-in-law faced was no one’s fault but theirs

And he can go cry all the Crocodile tears they want and wipe them with their entitlement

Ah a good case of the old game “Fuck around and find out”

In the end, the brother did have choices but he chose the worst one and should face the consequences head-on

As an adult, you have the freedom to make your own choices, but having those choices means dealing with whatever consequences they have.

If you deal with it with immaturity and hurt people along the way, especially your family, it will surely make the struggle more prominent.

So think wisely and learn to listen. If you’ve got more advice for OP on how to talk to her brother, you can leave it in the comments.

Chelsi