Redditor Asks If He'll Be An A**hole If He Refuses To Have A Ramp Installed At His New House For His Wheelchair-Bound Nephew

After the couple closed on the house, OP's sister came to visit and asked when they would like her husband to install a ramp for her son.

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• March 11, 2023

We always strive to do everything we can for our family. And that becomes even more apparent when we have family members who might need a little extra help due to an illness or disability.

Reddit user u/AgencyScared31 recently shared a story in the AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit about a dilemma he is having concerning his nephew, who is in a wheelchair. He explained that he and his wife recently bought a new house.

After the couple closed on the house, OP's sister came to visit and asked when they would like her husband to install a ramp for her son. The Redditor explained that his sister's husband had installed a ramp at his and his wife's old house so that their son could always feel welcome.

However, the design of the new house is a lot more complicated than the old one, and adding a ramp would mean losing some of their favorite features. The tiered front garden would potentially be lost, and that was one of the main reasons they purchased the house.

The only other option would mean narrowing the driveway, and that would mean the OP wouldn't be able to get his cars into the garage. The Redditor says he has explained all of this to his sister, but she doesn't understand and thinks her son's feelings should be the priority.

Some of OP's other family members are also unhappy because his house won't be suitable for family gatherings if his nephew can't come. The OP offered still to host family events during the summertime in the backyard since that would be fine for his nephew, and there is also an accessible bathroom in the garage.

But the family still isn't happy and says that it will be too hot for everyone outside. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

The OP shared a story about a dilemma he is having concerning his nephew who is in a wheelchair.

The design of the new house is a lot more complicated than the old one, and adding a ramp would mean losing some of their favorite features.

The tiered front garden would potentially be lost, and that was one of the main reasons they purchased the house.

The only other option would mean narrowing the driveway, and that would mean the OP wouldn't be able to get his cars into the garage.

The Redditor says he has explained all of this to his sister, but she doesn't understand and thinks her son's feelings should be the priority.

Some of OP's other family members are also unhappy because his house won't be suitable for family gatherings if his nephew can't come.

Here's how people reacted.

Let the family pay for a lift.

Perhaps a portable ramp is an option?

NTA.

"When it's your turn to host, rent an accessible venue."

"Have you thought of a removable ramp?"

"That seems very entitled."

"What about a temporary ramp?"

"This is the perfect excuse to buy a forklift."

It's not necessary just for the occasional visit.

"Its your home, not theirs."

"Super entitled and self-centred."

"He isn't your child."

YWNBTA.

"The audacity!"

What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP should be more sympathetic to his nephew's needs, or is it unreasonable for his sister to expect him to alter his home?

We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

Stephanie