Man Publicizes The Passing Of His Classmate's Father, Gets Roasted Online For Being So Nosy

"You do not get it … Good night.”

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• August 6, 2023

A death announcement notifies the public of a recent death. Traditionally, a death announcement, also known as a death notice, is published in a newspaper.

In recent years, people have posted more casual versions on social media networks. So you can say that social media plays an important role in our daily lives, with many individuals publishing happy news like engagements, births, and new homes.

Although reporting a death online may feel awkward if you stay respectful of the person who has died and their bereaved family, social media may be a helpful method to spread the news. There are no 'rules' per se, but it is crucial to consider the feelings of individuals who will read the post.

But before you publish anything on social media, make sure it's appropriate for you, your family, and the deceased's family. If you're going to post something online, tell close friends and family members in person or over the phone beforehand. 

The narrator of today's story didn't do any of these things before posting about a funeral online, as the deceased family had already made it public. Still, the OP got a message from another classmate and group member telling him that it's really up to the family to post, and this caused an argument between them.

OP kicks off his story and here's the headline

After graduation, the OP and his friend lost contact except for reunions, where they caught up on things

The OP insists that the fact that the news appeared in the local newspaper makes it public

Had the OP posted prior to publication in the paper, it would have been absolutely disrespectful

The obituary already was public knowledge and the class Facebook group is moderated, meaning the post needed approval

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

The action I took was publicizing the death of a classmate’s father. A third party objected to my doing so because she thought it was disrespectful to the family.

This Redditor declares the OP the AH for calling the funeral home

Why is the OP so invested that he needed to share the information?

This Redditor is amazed at the length the OP went to just to be "right"

Did it occur to the OP that his classmate has no control over the obituary?

Not wvey family member is going to be comfortable with it becoming public knowledge

People deal with grief differently and OP's friend may be fine with it

It wasn't the OP's business to post it

There is literally no need for the OP to post about someone else’s deceased family member. Many Redditors agreed to this, and the OP was declared the AH in the story.

What are your thoughts about what the OP did? Drop your verdict in the comments section below and share this story with your loved ones to get their opinions as well.

Maryjane