Uncle Promises His Nephew That He Could Be A Ring Bearer At His Wedding Without Knowing That His Bride Wants A Child-Free Event

"At that age, kids actually still believe promises mean something."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• February 23, 2023

Toddlers and children may not always grasp complex concepts, but they do know what promises are. Kids have an incredible memory, and letting them down by breaking a promise is a no-no.

They will be heartbroken, especially when the broken promise was made by an adult they look up to. This soon-to-be groom should have known that before he swore to his nephew that he would be the ring bearer during his wedding.

The subject was brought up when the 5-year-old found wedding photos of his two dads. He wasn't in the photos and was upset that he wasn't a part of the joyous occasion.

His uncle, the groom, promised him that he would be the ring bearer to his wedding the following year. OP saw his kid light up at his uncle's promise, and he knew how much it meant to the child.

After the proposal, OP's son was excitedly bragging to his baby brother about being a "ring bear" at their uncle's wedding. OP called his brother to congratulate him and to share how excited his nephew was about being a part of the ceremony.

OP's brother sheepishly said that his bride is set on having a child-free event. This means OP's kid can no longer be a ring bearer.

OP was taken aback by his brother's change of tune

He knew the news would break his son's heart

Since OP and his family currently live abroad, attending his brother's wedding without the kids will be more challenging now

They have limited options and one of them is not attending the wedding at all

His brother talked to his fiancé but she isn't changing her mind. OP told his brother that he has to break the ring bearer news to his nephew and that he shouldn't have made a promise he couldn't keep.

The person who made the promise is responsible for explaining why he's going back on his word

He could have forgotten the promise he made to his nephew but it still doesn't excuse him from the fallout

"Kids remember promises better than the adults who make them because at that age they actually still believe promises mean something."

Redditors advised OP to skip the wedding and have their own vow renewal to fulfill their son's wish of attending their wedding

A commenter said no one really is at fault here and that OP can use this as a chance to teach his son an important lesson

However, a commenter said that OP's brother was definitely in the wrong for several reasons

Someone pointed out that by making this a big deal, OP taking the spotlight away from his brother during an important milestone

OP and his husband can stage a fake wedding for their son to participate in or he can choose between these other options:

It looks like OP is finally seeing the light out of what he thought was a no-win situation

Looks like OP is about to see his son become an adorable "ring bear"

Promises shouldn't be made lightly to anyone, but especially to kids. OP's brother was definitely in the wrong when he made a promise he wasn't sure he could keep.

The silver lining is, OP's son doesn't have to feel sad about missing his dad's wedding. He will make an adorable ring "bear"!

Chelsi