Dilemma For Woman With Presents For Ex And His Dog As He Enters New Relationship

Online community discouraged her from doing so and adviced her to stop communicating with the guy.

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• Published in Interesting
• January 31, 2024

What do you do with a gift you're supposed to give an ex? Most people would discourage it.

It will potentially complicate things, especially when the ex has a new romantic partner in the mix. Even if your intentions are pure and you're just reminiscing about shared memories, you need to think about how everyone might feel about the friendly gesture.

After all, it's not just about you and your ex anymore. There are other people involved whose feelings matter, too.

So, it's worth considering whether such gestures could potentially cause any awkwardness or discomfort for anyone involved. Today's story from the Relationships subreddit answers that question.

The original poster (OP) told the community that she had remained on friendly terms with her ex, particularly due to their shared affection for his dog. Two weeks before Christmas, she stumbled upon a perfect gift for him: a vintage record that matched his collection.

Additionally, she wanted to gift a cute elf costume for his beloved dog. However, when she mentioned dropping off the dog sweater, he abruptly informed her that he was seeing someone new and preferred to close the door on their relationship.

Understandably taken aback, she respected his decision, bid him well, and even unfollowed the shared Google folder of dog pictures. Left with the gifts, she debated whether to send them.

The OP bought gifts for an ex and his dog.

But since they've decided to cut contact, she wonders is she still needs to give them.

The OP clarified that she doesn't plan on getting back with her ex. She simply thought they were still friends after the breakup.

She was looking forward to seeing the dog in an elf costume, so she decided to buy it as a present.

She ended up with gifts for both her ex and his dog.

The ex suddenly becomes distant. He finally told her that he's seeing someone.

OP decided not to talk with him anymore.

She also stopped looking at the dog pictures. But now, she doesn't know what to do with the gifts.

OP followed the community's advice. She decided not to give the gifts.

The guy has moved on. It's also time for the OP to move on from this friendship.

The ex has finally closed the chapter in his life where the OP is involved. She doesn't need to give the gifts anymore.

The ex might see the OP as being stalkerish if she decides to give the gifts.

The items probably wouldn't be appreciated.

It's better for the OP to just get her money back.

The OP did things right by not sending those gifts and halting contact with his ex. While it might be sad that she won't be able to see the dog anymore, it's for the best.

It might cause misunderstandings with the new girlfriend if the OP insists his ex takes those gifts. Not having any form of contact would be peaceful for everyone.

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