MIL Curses Her Son's Fiancé Out Because They Postponed Their Wedding Without "Consulting" Her First, Makes A Cry Fest In Front Of Family

"I feel like a failure in the eyes of my new family"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 27, 2023

One of the very first steps in the wedding planning process is choosing a date, but that doesn't mean that it is fixed in stone. In reality, there may be a number of good reasons to postpone your wedding.

Postponement may be the best course of action in a number of situations, whether you and your future husband are dealing with the unexpected or are just choosing to enjoy the engagement phase for a little while longer. Most people would speak with their vendors if they are thinking about delaying and finding out what is permissible under the terms of their contracts or if they can move some goods or services to a later time.

There may be some flexibility, depending on the situation. In other words, a wedding postponement or cancellation means many, many plans must be changed for many, many people, including family, guests, and vendors.

OP's soon-to-be MIL got mad at her for not consulting her before postponing their wedding, as she had her own guests, who she now has to inform about the change. The thing is, the OP had been planning a relatively small but meaningful wedding when she, unfortunately, lost her secondary income stream.

They decided to push their date by a year so they would have time to figure out a way to make money, and now her mother is on her neck.

The OP went to the AITA subreddit community to ask...

The OP was already anxious that her MIL may try to expand their guest list without her consent and she was correct

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say regarding the story

Why in the world would the OP's MIL expect to be consulted?

The OP will be so busy getting married that she'll hardly notice things

Mom has no say in this as she's not even the one paying

The OP should take that hit upfront and elope with her partner

This Redditor is telling the OP the same thing he said to his family and his wife's family

From a Redditor with no particular verdict:

If you're not involved, it won't be her son's big day. I think she thinks it's HER big day. She's way over-entitled here and needs to chill and back off.

FYI, she probably won't chill and back off. Just so you know.

OP's MIL will take over any wedding that she has

This is the OP's and her fiance's chance to stand firm

Why would she even invite guests without informing the OP first?

It's the OP's wedding and she has every right to shift the date

Even though your wedding is first and foremost about you, you have to consider your guests too when trying to postpone. Because of this, it's crucial to approach delaying or canceling your wedding with that mentality.

The OP was declared not the AH, and you can drop your thoughts about this story in the comments section below.

Maryjane