Man Must Choose Between Partner And Family, Doesn't Know What To Do

"Later they started to say rude things like “you’re disgusting” or “I’m embarrassed for him dating you” amongst other things."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• October 5, 2023

Navigating family disapproval of your partner can pose significant challenges. Yet, when your partner eventually issues the ultimatum, "Choose between me and your family," the situation becomes even more emotionally demanding.

The love you hold for your family is as profound as your feelings for your partner, and making a decision can be a deeply personal and arduous struggle. This very dilemma is currently being experienced by OP in this story.

OP has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for three years, and they share a home and a beloved dog. While many aspects of their relationship are happy, there is a significant source of tension on his mom's side of the family, particularly involving his grandma, aunt, and uncle.

When OP initially introduced his girlfriend to his family, his mom welcomed her, but the rest of the family appeared distant and even made hurtful comments such as "You're disgusting" or "I'm embarrassed for him dating you," among other hurtful remarks. Regrettably, OP didn't take concrete steps to address this issue promptly. Instead, he attempted to mediate between his girlfriend and his family in the hopes of fostering greater comfort and understanding among them.

However, this approach backfired, leaving his girlfriend feeling isolated and abandoned, as if he were prioritizing his family over her. This divide between them has grown significantly.

Despite numerous attempts to resolve the situation and bring everyone onto the same page, OP's family has expressed a willingness to move forward and put the past behind them. On the other hand, his girlfriend feels deeply wronged by the mistreatment she endured for an extended period, leading her to believe that true change is unlikely.

As a result, she has presented OP with a difficult choice: her or the family that mistreated her.

OP has been with his girlfriend for 3 years, and his family has not been accepting of her. Despite OP's attempts to mediate, it made his girlfriend feel isolated like OP was choosing his family over her.

OP's girlfriend faced mistreatment from OP's family, so she's given him an ultimatum: her or his family

Regardless of OP's girlfriend's decision, it's crucial to reflect on how his family treated her, as their behavior was highly disrespectful.

It's OP's family that mistreated her, so they owe her an apology.

It seems OP is determined to keep these people in his life without a clear reason other than them being family.

If OP truly cares about her, he needs to consider taking a stand and distancing himself from his family.

OP's girlfriend has every right to avoid his family.

OP should confront his family

OP's family's behavior is unacceptable.

OP should consider cutting ties with family members if they continue to mistreat her.

OP's girlfriend shouldn't have to endure insults from those specific individuals in his family

They must either accept her or be removed from OP's life permanently.

OP should talk to their partner and family separately to understand how everyone feels. He should think about whether their relationship is good in other ways and whether his family's worries make sense.

OP should focus on what makes him happy and try to find a solution that keeps both their partner and family in their life if possible.

Damjan